Teen son has moved in with dad...it's killing me...
My 15 year old son has just moved in with his dad after 8 years with me, 3 of that with both me and my second husband. I am feeling very resentful toward my spouse and am ready to leave my marriage. He and my son had an argument 1 1/2 years ago and have never healed their relationship. My husband didn't speak to my son for almost 6 months and has done nothing to reconnect with my son. My son told me that he has never felt like this was his home, never felt comfortable here or that we were welcome. (We moved into my husband's home with him and his three kids.) I am so angry at my husband for this that I am ready to divorce and get my own place so I can have a relationship with my son who barely speaks to me now and seems very happy at his dads. I am not willing to sacrifice my relationship with my son for my marriage. He has made some stupid teenage mistakes so he has not been an angel but I feel that my husband is the adult and needs to make more effort but I think it's too late now. I am so sad... At what point do you end your marriage to save your kids? My husband is great in many ways with my three younger kids...
What was the argument about
What was the argument about that your husband couldn't get over?
My son was not accepting the
My son was not accepting the authority of my husband very well and I don't agree with how my husband parents which I didn't discover until I had been married for a while. SO I asked my spouse to let me handle all the discipline with him. After i had finally gotten my son to sincerely apologize for a minor infraction my husband responded with, "Sorry isn't good enough!" including the pointed finger in his face, following him through the house yelling at him, backing him against the front door until my son was completely out of control, crying and called him a f*@*@#g c@ck. That was the end of their relationship. My son apologized to my husband the next day but it didn't help. My kids are more important to me than my husband. Is that bad? I won't forsake my relationship with my son for my marriage. Not when I think my husband is at fault. His kids have done worse than mine, never apologized and he doesn't treat them that way. It's obvious to me that he doesn't like my kid and I know that my son feels it too.
"My kids are more important
"My kids are more important to me than my husband. Is that bad?"
Whether it's bad or good, it's the truth. It seems like you have already made up your mind.