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Someone PLEASE tell me that my boyfriend's "guilt" re: his kid will go away or at least subside!?!?!?

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Submitted by Skeeterina on Sun, 04/03/2011 - 7:25pm

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Blended Family Issues

Ok so I guess my primary concern is whether or not my boyfriend will get over what ever is causing this "guilt" in his life? Because if not, I don't know that I will be able to stay in this relationship!

He doesn't SAY he feels guilty but the fact that he "does things for his son" because he's "missed half his life already" is unnerving to me to say the least! I don't understand the feeling because I worked the entire time my kids have been on this earth and DO NOT feel guilty that I "missed" a damn thing. I still raised my kids and taught them and did NOT take for granted the time I did spend with them......

Will it ever get better?? Does anyone know?

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Submitted by trixie in utah on Sun, 04/03/2011 - 7:34pm

No. the guilt probably will not go away. period. So your decision now is "Can you live with it"

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Submitted by Gwen on Sun, 04/03/2011 - 7:57pm

My DH got over his guilt. It took about 3 plus years, counseling, and a change from 25 to 50% custody (so he's now as involved in their lives as he can be & still work full time). We've been together 8 years now, married 4.5, and the last few years have been great in that respect. No more DH catering to kids or BM out of daddy guilt. It can happen.