Okay so Im always moaning and groaning about my husbands kid that I only have to see a few times a month, but I guess I just expected him to take an immediate liking to my own daughter 3yo. Her, him, and I all live together of course, and its been a rough road. I am due in December with a baby of our own, and we were just married and he moved in here in march, so I just think there are BIG changes for her going from being with just me all the time to him, a new house, a marriage, and now a new baby coming. She isnt even that bad, the typical crying/whining/trying to get her way that any and all toddlers do. He cant stand it. here is a post I put in a group of mine on facebook that tells a big more:

"I need some advice ladies. I asked my husband to pack a bag and leave for a few days, to reflect on our relationship. Things have been pretty rocky lately, my mood swings and him just not caring or helping are really just making things bad all around. My daughter has been being a little terror, and I posted about her a few days ago, but her attitude is getting to him too. So much so that today he made the comment "she has driven a wedge between us and alot of our problems are bc of her" that made me mad. She is 3 years old. He is 25. I think he needs to step up to the plate and man-up. Im just sick of always playing referee with them two,and I just cant do it any longer. She isnt even that bad, he just doesnt understand that we JUST got married and he JUST moved in with us in march, before that I was a single mom and she had me all to herself. Of course there is an adjustment for her. Idk what to do anymore. Obviously I wont abandon my daughter, and she isnt old enough to even realize what she is doing in her behavior so the only hope is that he does. Honestly I dont see it though, he is too prideful and ALWAYS finds someone else to blame everything on. So, as much as I hate it I asked him to leave for a few days, and idk what is going to happen."

I am always the FIRST to say when my kid is bad, out of line, ect and the FIRST to discipline her, I am super strict, but that isnt enough for him, he says that she just doesnt listen or mind and it doesnt matter that I am ALLOVER her with the discipline. He said himself "im just not good with kids"..okay then why the **** did you marry me, marry "us"??? I dont get it! any help in this situation?