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sd's grandma offered to take her in

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Submitted by startingover2010 on Thu, 09/17/2009 - 3:03pm

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and bf said no. he said that he isnt going to send her away just cause she 'acts up'.

problem is, its way more than just acting up.

bf says we need to keep on punishing when she screws up.

but, bf doesnt follow through. 2 days in a row he grounds her, and both those days he let her off grounding cause she 'cleaned her room'. it was like he felt bad about grounding her.

i cant talk to bf. he's so...idk so dumb. doesnt want to listen. thats why i am leaving him just as soon as i save up a little more money....could take a while as we are so financially screwed with his unemployment.

any ideas?

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Submitted by startingover2010 on Thu, 09/17/2009 - 7:15pm

any relatives who can give me a loan. i dont want to burden anyone. we dont buy anything extra as money is so tight. thank you for the advice. i will check out the apartments tomorrow.

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Submitted by Orange County Ca on Thu, 09/17/2009 - 4:44pm

For the sake of this kid get out as quickly as possible. The child does not need adults coming into and out of her life.

Don't move in with anyone with a child until you are as certain as you can be that these are people you're going to stay with for the rest of your life. By "these" I mean him AND his kids.

Better yet - you're young - avoid bf's with children.

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Since no one else will thank you for what you've done I will do so now. Thank you for being important in a kids life. Fifty years from now its the only thing that will matter about your existance.

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Submitted by startingover2010 on Thu, 09/17/2009 - 7:13pm

sounds a bit harsh. almost as if you feel i am 'wrong' for wanting to leave or have sd live somewhere, where she can get the kind of upbringing she needs. bf isnt doing his part, and i am done with mine as it gets no results.

i do, however, plan to try and stay away from men with kids. i also though dont plan to date anytime soon. i plan to focus on my bd3 and school and getting a job.