So I checked with their pediatrician today about the dress issue and pediatrician said that how I handled it by not giving her attention on the dress or making her bed was appropriate. She also stated that I was right about the behavior as well.. so, therefor she stated that she sd will be praised for her own stuff, and to let her know that we are working with brother on whatever we are working on with him at the time. So, k oodles to me not even knowing but recognizing the issues.. it was out of jealousy to get attention from her dad. That I did know..