Papa smurf and baby smurf
I should have listened to everyone the last time I was on here. I moved in with my ex. His kid was so badly behaved. He treated my son horrible. He chewed my sons game to pieces and my ex used the excuse he has anxiety (The child is ten). Then he would lie at a drop of a hat to get my son in trouble. He would hide my sons cell phone (that I bought and paid for), he did this several times and my ex would say it's just a joke, he hits my ex and talks back just horrible behaved. He even threatened to hit me with a box and my ex made excuses for him.
We tried to live together but it just didn't work he didn't want to set rules and boundaries for his child. He put his son on a pedestal and no matter what his son said he always believed his son over my child. I believe in a blended family all kids should be treated fairly and have the same rules. My ex used to complain I had no relationship with his son, that is true because why would I want a relationship with a child who is rude, doesn't respect adults, and isn't nice to my child. I even stopped babysitting because of his rudeness and disrespect.
I like kids I normally don't have an issue with them and I felt bad saying I do not like children but this child was just rude. There was no way we could have been a blended family. The child even disrespected my parents house by kicking my moms beautiful furniture and he got mad when my mom said his child is no longer welcome in her house. HE needed his child to be included in everything. Also on top of that my ex tracked my phone, would go through my things without my permission, and constantly accuse me of cheating. I did care and love my ex but it was just enough is enough I could not tolerate that behavior and he refused to get help for himself or make rules for his child. Also he had a bad gambling problem. He claimed to be a professional poker player.
What do you all think of that situation?
You have left him, correct?
You have left him, correct? Why are you asking what people think of this situation? It was not the right relationship for you and you have ended it, so it doesn't matter what others think.
Are you questioning whether leaving him (again) was the right choice? It was. It is.
The guy is a jerk, his kid is a jerk. You have lost nothing, you are missing out on nothing.
Stop second guessing yourself. He won't change, he is who he is.
hereiam
Yes I left him and changed my number. I could not deal with the toxic relationship. I used to tell him, you can care about someone a lot but everyone has a breaking point and I had mine. He's a jerk and his kid are a jerk both are liars and manipulators. He kept promising to get counseling and to make rules for his kid and he never followed through. He accused me of cheating and talking to men and hiding stuff.
I think you are one of the
I think you are one of the few success stories we read here!
It's so rare to hear of woman who has these issues and walks away. Good for you!
Even if you take out all the kids, you've still got a gambling problem to deal with. This guy was not a good prospect! Plus, that jealousy of his...that is a bad characteristic and it's miserable to live with someone like that. It's a sign of his insecurity and you would never have peace with his insecurity being imposed on you.
I hope the next time you find your prince, you don't move in with him until you're certain he's really a prince -- so much a prince that you'd marry him. If he's not good enough to marry, or you don't know him well enough yet to marry him, then you don't know him well enough to shack up with him.
I think half the miserable live-in relationships on this site wouldn't have happened if people treated shacking up as seriously as they do marriage.
So, congratulations to losing all that bad ju-ju that guy and his clan brought you! I'm happy to read someone has taken control of her life and grabbed her future!
marblefawn
I honestly had no choice but to walk away. I stayed for a very long time and tried to make it work, things just got worse. His son had no rules and and more and more mean to my son, he would lie to get my son in trouble. He was very controlling towards me. I could not have male friends and if I did not tell him when a male friend contacted me, he considered it cheating. When I went to a wedding he thought taking a picture with a friend was cheating. He would accuse me of talking to men behind his back, and would accuse me of cheating. It was a nightmare, by far the worse relationship I ever encountered. He would promise to go to counseling and set rules for his child but he never followed through.
Sounds like you made the
Sounds like you made the right decision!
Great move!
Great move!
I have one additional recommendation. Do not punish yourself over this. There is absolutely nothing about this POS nor his toxic spawn to care about or love.
What about this guy could you possibly love or care about?
RAGS
Honestly IDK what I loved about him. I guess when things were good they were good. It was like he had a switch. I def think he had mental issues. One minute he would act like he cared about me, then like a switch he would switch back to calling me a cheater and all kinds of things.
I am glad to hear that you
I am glad to hear that you are past him and his child.
Take care of you.