Ok, here is the problem, I have a daughter who is 13 & a son 16 and he has a daughter who is 12 & a son 14 (the sons are no problem at all.... they're great!). My daughter knows discipline, consequences to her actions, etc...... his daughter, knows NOTHING, but believes she knows EVERYTHING. She has never been grounded or anything. This past weekend, we were at a party across the street and the girls asked if they could go back to the house because they were 'bored'..... he sent them over to ask me. I said yes, but no computer because no-one else is there.... Well, that sent his daughter into a rage..... she went over to where he was and said 'She's not my mother, she can't tell me what to do' and off she stormed home. My daughter (who is NOT an angel btw) did go back to the house, but turned around and came back to the party because she DID go turn the computer on and started using messenger. So of course I walked over to him and told him..... he said ok. I looked at him and said again, you NEED to go take care of this... so we all walked back to the house and he told her off the computer, she said no, he told her again, she said no again and kept typing..... (personally if it were me, I would've unplugged the computer after the 1st time of telling her to get off of it). Needless to say, he said it again..... and she still didn't move. He said it one more time and also said you owe SM an apology...... and she finally got up and stormed off to her room. Not another word from him. Well, she has caused problems in her BM new marriage too.... (a week ago, caused BM husband to leave for the day). This manipulative girl is now causing us problems. She gets NO discipline, no consequences for her actions, she won't do dishes, vaccuum or anything. She basically has no friends (I wonder why!?!) and my daughter doesn't like her at all, but tolerates her because of me - whenever she has friends around.. if she is paying 100% attention to the SD, she throws a tantrum and goes and cries to daddy. I've tried talking to him about this (and we've talked to BM) and all he says is she won't talk to me (unless of course she's complaining about me) Now SD is not talking to me, my daughter, her brother, her dad or her mom...... (my son lives with his dad 80% of the time - but he doesn't like her either). She acts like a baby most of the time (and actually is sometimes as she still wets the bed-no medical reason, just laziness maybe or deep sleeper??) and also will calls her dad 'dada' which creeps me out. She is very self centered, selfish, manipulative and just down right mean. She feels the world revolves around her wants/needs (and yes.... she has actually said this before). I've told her that she needs to treat others the way she wants to be treated and she has said back to me.. no, they need to treat me like a princess and I can treat them like servants..... hmm, maybe one to many fairytales???? I'm at a loss as to what to do..... Personally if it were my daughter, I'd strip her room of all the goodies and make her sit in there whenever she wasn't in school and make her learn to appreciate the things she has, but BD won't let me to that...... I don't want to leave him, but SD needs to understand she is the kid NOT the adult.......