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"Not Welcome" to attend graduation

ALK814's picture

Submitted by ALK814 on Fri, 05/20/2022 - 8:16am

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It's not a lack of tickets issue, I was just informed by my husband that I'm not welcomed at SS 17's high school graduation, even though I was invited by him and mutual friends to attend and see their kids graduate. Not sure if I should blow it off and take myself out to a nice dinner, or quietly crash the event and just stand in the back on my own just to get some closure to this 8 year hellish step child/step mom relationship. 

Harry's picture

Submitted by Harry on Fri, 05/20/2022 - 9:21am

That SS is not welcome in your home anymore. Or any vacation or other fun things.  You are not welcome to pay for his college, car, ect 

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Submitted by caninelover on Fri, 05/20/2022 - 9:57am

You need to ask your DH what he wants.  If he wants you there as support then ignore SS and go.  If he thinks SS should dictate who goes then fine - but let DH know you're offended and it makes you want to spend no time with SS now he is an adult.

One thing I've learned is to tell SO when I'm offended or hurt by Bratty's (SD24) passive aggressive crap.  Doesn't mean I need him to do anything, I just need him to see my perspective so he's not confused when I don't swoon over any scraps of attention Bratty throws our direction.

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Submitted by Winterglow on Fri, 05/20/2022 - 9:29am

If the friends who invited you ask why you weren't there, be sure and tell them the truth - that your SS didn't want you there and you didn't want to make waves. Graduations are pretty dull anyway so it's not as if you'll be missing anything major. Enjoy a nice and peaceful time! 

Alterantively, you could spend the time searching your SS's bedroom for anything illegal and call the cops when you find it ... 

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Submitted by ESMOD on Fri, 05/20/2022 - 10:05am

Just go do your own thing.. unless there is another child graduating that you DO have a desire to support.. you don't like your SS.. he doesn't like you.. it is pure theater for you to go and pretend to be the supportive SM right?

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Submitted by advice.only2 on Fri, 05/20/2022 - 11:35am

Thank your lucky stars you don't have to go pretend you give a rats a$$ about this kid.