New and need advice
I was sent over here from another forum for advice on my dsd. Long story short, my dsd is 4 and displaying bizarre behaviors. She will vomit on anyone or anything if she does not get her way. She will actually gag herself until she vomits. She will hit my 18 mo dd anytime she thinks no one is looking. She tells Bm that we beat her with bats, touch her privates, and most recently that I poured hot coffee on her. None of these thing are true obviously. She screams and cries non stop. She will stare you down and tell you "no.". I am at my wits end. Dh feels guilty bc he doesn't get much time with her and let's things ride. It's making me insane. My eye has been twitching for two months now bc of the stress. I was just recently told to disengage and I have. It's hard. Any advice is welcomed, I can't live like this anymore.
Child Protective Services
Child Protective Services STAT, followed damn close by a trip to a therapist to see WTH is going on because these behaviors screams of a child who went through those things.
She actually vomits when she
She actually vomits when she gets upset? That is DEFINETLY NOT normal. My brother had a vicious bouts with the stomach flu at that age so part of me wonders if this is physiological issue. Have you and DH considered bringing her to a pediatrician?
My SS(7) used to do this when
My SS(7) used to do this when he would have to try a food that he didn't want to (BM only gives him chicken nuggets and fries. He makes his own dinner at her house!). He also would throw up when he didn't get his way. He threw up in my car once and I told DH that he'd better handle it or I would. Couple swats to the bum and a severe lecture stopped that nonsense. My BS was appalled at his step-brother's behavior. And it was such a pleasant ride home with that smell in the car - NOT!
I agree with the above post
I agree with the above post because it sounds someone is doing those things to her and she is saying you guys because she is too scared to say who is really doing them. I would definitely call CPS just to be on the safe side and to protect yourselves from any finger pointing. She is young enough to get adequate help, don't let your DH wait till its too late.
Call CPS on Bm? We have taken
Call CPS on Bm? We have taken her to dds pedi and he said she is being manipulative and trying to get a rise out of us. And yes, she actually gag as herself until she vomits. Sometimes we are able to stop her...most times not.
I don't believe there is any
I don't believe there is any abuse going on. I think it's more likely that Bm is coaching dsd to say these things. The vomiting is a ruse, so she can only eat what she wants, do what she wants, etc.
I don't allow them to be
I don't allow them to be alone without me being right there anymore. Dsd is inside throwing a screaming fit and I can't take it so dd and I are outside on the deck playing. I think I'm just going to start leaving or barricading ourselves in the room while she is here. Dh would never go for her not coming. Bm accuses us of all this stuff but has never called the police or CPS, which is strange since she states she believes dsd. I can take this anymore! I'm at my wits end!
I can't hold Bm accountable
I can't hold Bm accountable for anything. Only dh can. She has let us know loud and clear she hates me. I wasn't arguing with you, I'm not sure why you got defensive. I'm at my wits end and have decided I need to disengage with dsd. That's the first step. I don't know the next, or the one after that. That's why I'm here asking for advice. Sorry if you misread my last response. I'm pregnant and stressed. I have been a puddle of tears for the past few days since dsd has been here.