Call it whatever you like, but I seriously dislike my stepchildren and the kind of people they are growing into. I worry for when our baby comes along and has to grow up with them in and out of his life with their bad behaviour. A lot of it is acting out, but after speaking with their mother their behaviour at home is a thousand times worse. I understand it's difficult for them, they've got siblings by three different fathers in their own household and they see their dad every other weekend. Their brother's dad comes and sees him all the time, takes him on trips, holidays, activites etc but when the kids are here with us we don't have the money to do those sort of things especially this time of year when we've just had to suddenly up and move out of our home due to a roof collapse and into another that costs us an extra £200 in rent.

They come to ours and complain the whole time, SS7 moans that he has to share 'his' room with his sister, in reality it's not their room at all, it will be our child's room. They sleep there for 4 nights a month, I'm not upgrading to a three bedroom house even more money so kids can have their own rooms when they won't even be here. I think it's unreasonable that that is what is expected of us. He runs and jumps all over our furniture, and we've both told him a million times to the point I'm actually shouting at him yet he will still do it. Constantly stealing from us, money out of my purse, jewellery, he even stole his brother's phone from his own home and stole another child's wallet at school. He is very destructive when he can't get his own way. He has broken his sister's toys when we'd literally bought them for Christmas, he broke his brother's fitbit, breaks his own toys and has broken my video games by snapping the discs in half. He smacks and fights with his sister and throws toys at people, not just me but when we've had people over as well. What are we seriously meant to do about this? They are with their mother 90% of the time, and what we enforce here is never listened to. We talk to her about what he does but they just seem to leave them to it. 

It's so mentally draining putting my energy into these children, when I've got my own to think about. My SD5 is a bratty little princess. That's an understatement! Soon as you say no to bad behaviour, she just starts rubbing her eyes with her head down. No tears, just pretending to cry. Getting her to share with her brother, she's almost 5 she should know how to share? - or listen to her brother when he asks her for toys back multiple times she'll just sit there and smirk not listening. If me and her father are in the kitchen, he'll come and give me a hug and that's it, she'll purposely shove me out of the way, pushing into my stomach (I'm 17 weeks pregnant) and hug him instead. I'm not a jealous time, I think she's just being really pathetic. She'll put on this baby voice, soon as we start talking about our baby. She'll climb into her dad's lap and cry like a baby and want to be held. I've honestly rolled my eyes so many times I'm surprised they're not stuck in my head. They are both just so badly behaved, I've almost tripped down the stairs on their toys which they refuse to clean up. They leave the spare room an absolute mess and we have to clean it up ourselves. They are very money oreintated as well, we cannot go anywhere without them asking for something and asking how much money we have. We say no, because I don't believe in getting toys every single time we go out especially when they're so badly behaved and they come back with 'Well our mum would' or 'Nick would buy us this' (Their stepfather.) They do it when my parets take them out as well, and they constantly ask them for money too. 

I honestly dread for when our child is growing up. For two weeks at a time I will make sure our child will be following the rules and being as respectful and kind as we can shape him into but when the SKs are here I know he'll pick up things from them which he'll pick up every time they're over. Honestly what should we do? Talking to their mother is hopeless, getting the SKs to follow rules I might as well be talking to a brick wall. I hate them coming over now, I purposely leave the house and go to my mums or stay a friend's house just to get away from them. I married my husband, not his badly behaved children. Even he has admitted to me that our baby will be a chance to make sure at least one of his children grows up respectful.