Okay, i am new here and was really excited to see this existed. my DH and i are having an issue. first off a background, he has a son i have a daughter so we are both SP, then we have one together. SS is 10, he lives with BM and SF. they both have extremely well paying jobs. SS is really spoiled. he gets things no child should have, every gaming system, goes on trips everywhere, they have a planned trip to England coming up, if he breaks/loses/forgets one of the many expensive gifts he gets he could care less as BM buys him another or will go out of her way to go pick it up wherever he forgot it are prime examples. he doesn't listen to anything you ask him to do or not to do. when my BFF was visiting he began to intentioanlly stomp on her foot and she asked him to please stop, looked her straight in the eye and did it a few more times till his BF smacked him upside the head. SS argues with us all the time, then cries his eyes out when he doesnt get his way/has to go to bed/cant play video games/do chores etc. enough of that background, in short the SS is a handful and irritates me. well, DH is not the best at working shall we say. when we had our son he could not go to daycare as his white blood cells were non existent and he almost died at 1month. doctors orders that he ccould not have contact with anyone but us. so we rearranged our work schedules. DH worked from 9a-6p, although he rarely ever worked an entire day. he was always either late and always always left early. i worked 730a-430p, rarely miss work and took on an additional job to try and pay medical bills. well, our jobs gave us leniency so i began working 6a-1p so he could work from 2p-9p. when i got home he would not go to work!! he wouldn't go in till 4p. i decided to extend my hours till 3p to get all my work done and thus have to spend less time here on the weekends. (yes i was working all weekend too just to do my workload and DH would have a fit that i was always at work)since he wasnt going in till 4p anyway. what happens? he starts not going in till 6p sometimes 7p!! at this point im really annoyed. then he gets fired, can you blame them? because i make realtively decent money we came to an agreement that he would stay at home with our son and i would pay his CS. which wasn't getting paid even half before bcs of the pitiful hours he would put in. no matter what i did he wouldnt go to work more, citing that he wanted to spend time with me as the reason. anyway, now that i pay CS in full, and still have to pay all the bills, he never made enough to pay his share, the most he ever contributed to all the bills was $200. in addition to that he got into some trouble with the law and i am now paying for a lawyer to keep his butt out of prison, and mandatory counselling or they throw his butt in prison. the arguement comes in here. i don't think i should have to shell out anymore money for things for SS. i don't mind buying a bday present but when he wants me to buy ridiculosly expensive things, or throw a party for SS when his BM offered and he opted out bcs he wanted the cash. i feel like that is not my responsability, and if DH wants these things he should get a job, pay for his own stuff, and pay half our living expenses, then he can use any additional money on SS. we are arguing bcs i don't want to have to pay for SS to come on vacation with us. i feel that this is money for my kids, and i already send MY money to pay CS. and he gets everything he needs/wants from BM anyway. plus she knew what my DH is like and should have expected that if she wanted anything for SS she would have to do it, just as i know if i want anything for our son i have to do it as DH won't. he tries to bring my daughters BF into it saying that i complain when he doesnt take her places. but my daughters BF makes enough money and is single so i know that he pays for her and is not expecting his new wife to foot the bill for her. which is what i resent that DH does with me. HELP!!!