Daddy and Step daughter vent..
My 2 yr old daughter took right to the man I'm engaged to, began calling him daddy on her own and gives him hugs and kisses and tells him she loves him without coaxing from either of us. However, there are a lot of changes being made in our lives at this point, like living part time with him and living part time at home, mommy being gone for school and not spending as much time with her god mother.
Recently shes become really clingy with me. Like screaming for me at night at bedtime and any other time that her dad tries to speak to her or put her in the bed or anything. I realize that its natural for children to pick a parent at this age and want to be with them full time, however, this is a bit crazy, she loves him and he adores her, however, its anytime he says anything to her, if I walk out of the room or outside the front door, she SCREAMS bloody murder like shes being killed. I'm seriously becoming very fed up with this behavior. She asks for him when hes on the road, but as soon as he's home with us she wants nothing to do with him.
Please, if anyone has any advice at all on how to deal with this situation give it to me. I need it!
Thanks in advance.
Terrible 2's, they call it.
Terrible 2's, they call it. As long as she's happy when she talks about him, or hears about him, I wouldn't worry. If she seemed scared or nervous, I'd look into that.
However.... she's 2. She doesn't quite understand how things work just yet. Just continue to reassure her that you will be there. That, just because she can't see you, doesn't mean you're there. Play peek-a-boo. Go into another room, then peek your head in with a big smile, to reassure her that, although she can't see you, you ARE there. Talk to her from the other room. Call her on the phone when you are not with her. She just needs to be reassured that mommy is still in her little world, even if she can't see her.
As for night time, maybe you should be the one putting her to bed. Read her a story, and let her know mommy is sleeping just in the next room, and that you will be there when she wakes up in the morning.
Try not to coddle her too
Try not to coddle her too much. I'm not saying ignore her, but do not give her attention every time she wants it. Sometimes just let her scream. If you give in too much now, she might not grow out off it.
However, she is still just adjusting so give her time.
seperation issues? I have a
seperation issues?
I have a friend that her daughter is almost 2 now. and wow that sounds just like her. the doctors told her she may have seperation issues. besides that and what the other people are saying, im out of ideas. how are things now?