Am I a monster?
This is my first post so plz bear with me....I have been with my b/f now for almost two years and we have a daughter together who is now 10mths old (our baby was not planned and we fell VERY early into our relationship)
My b/f also has a 10yr old daughter, he split with her BM 9 years ago and has also had a long term relationship with another woman since.
He introduced me to her after a few months and on the occasion that I saw her, we seemed to get on well. I moved into my b/f's home once our baby was born and for the first few weeks everything was ok but now life has become almost unbearable. I feel like a stranger in my own home and that i walk on eggshells every day. We (SD and me)rarely speak to each other and I am now at the point where even the sound of her coming in the front door annoys me.....I don't want to feel like this but I don't know whats caused it either.
I have tried to keep these feelings to myself but the more i do this the more angry it makes me and then I feel I am lashing out at my b/f when I know its not his fault.
There are issues around the house that make me feel uncomfortable too i.e. she walks into our bedroom whenever she likes and uses the en-suite shower instead of the family bathroom, she comes in the bedroom when my b/f is naked also which i think is totally wrong at her age. She never helps around the house and gets away with it.
I am really at the end of my rope now and don't know what to do..
HELP!!!
No, you're not a monster.
No, you're not a monster. Your feelings are typical of new stepmoms.
Nope, you aren't a monster.
Nope, you aren't a monster. Does she live with you??
It sounds like boundaries need to be established and household chores need to be divied up though.
I would (hell, I did) put a lock on the bedroom door. At least until she learns how to knock before entering and to use her own bathroom. The last thing anyone in the situation needs is to have her going to school talking about how she, "saw Daddy's penis..."
Yeah. It's time to teach her to knock before entering.
She lives with us from Sunday
She lives with us from Sunday to Thursday and We have all been living together for 10 Months, i thought maybe I was just feeling like that because I was a bit depressed after having the baby but its not getting any better.
I have noticed that her dad goes really defensive of her when I say anything, I feel like I get no respect at all for my feelings.
I can totally relate to you.
I can totally relate to you. Just recently the sight of my skids pulling up in the driveway annoys the hell out of me, and the loudness when they come in the door just makes me sick. You do feel like a stranger in your own home bc they were here first and youre kinda like the "outsider" My BFs kids do that as well..all their toothbrush crap is in our bathroom and and they shower in there as well. heres the kicker..THEY HAVE AN UPSTAIRS SHOWER AND BATH! im like what the hell?? and before i moved in they were still sleeping with him! i was like uh that has to stop b4 i even consider moving in. Here he is talking about wanting a child and what not but i swear I feel like ill get even more terrotiral then!