Almost 6 yr. old step-daughter
I am so irritated with my boyfriend's daughter. She is almost six and seems to act like my just-turned-four yr. old except she throws the worst fits I've ever seen. This is his only child but his ex has a son that is older than his daughter so he dealt with him first (so she isn't an only child). She can't talk correctly, bad grammar and major speech issues. Nobody in their family corrects her speech. My daughters are 4 and 5 and they speak beautifully. She also has to have so much attention and I didn't know kids could be hypochondriacs. NO joke, every time she feels she is lacking in attention or is told to do something, it's, "My hauwt huts." (my heart hurts, took her to dr. no problems) "My tummy huts" "My eyes bun", "I dot an owie on my yeg", "I dot a bud bite". My boyfriend falls for it all and says I have no compassion. I do not fall for this with my kids. I can't stand being around her. I am due to have a baby any day and we have had her for almost three weeks, so I haven't been able to rest d/t fighting between kids. Her mom is suppose to have her half the time but he keeps asking to keep her for this or that. Also, many irritating habits eg.: picking nose and eating it, chewing/sucking on fingers or anything. Too much to post.
Whoa
She does have some issues, huh? When does she start going to school, surely it will help her to be around other kids and let them put her in line with this. Will your BF listen to, we need to prepare her or the other kids will really break her down? Btw, congratulations on the baby!!
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Her infinite variety.
William Shakespeare, "Antony and Cleopatra", Act 2 scene 26 yr old step daughter
Thanks! And, no he won't listen to anything I say. I have to be so careful of what I say about her. He says things about mine all the time but I mention one thing about her and he blows up and gets defensive. He says my five yr. old has a stinky kid smell to her hair, my 4 yr. old is chunky. Mine are 4 yrs.-37lbs. and 40" tall; 5 yr. old- 42 1/2" tall, 39lbs., both healthy looking. His, 6 (in nov.)40lbs., 44" tall, just looks skinny to me, all bony, veins show belly button sticks out (I know it might be an outie), no fat on butt. I know all kids are different but don't talk crap about mine if you can't take it about yours. I am very worried about her speech but he doesn't notice. Her older brother goes to a school that is not highly rated and his daughter will be also. Her older brother also has speech issues. Evidently, the school doesn't notice either, he is 11. So my bf wants me to put my 5 yr. old in the same kindergarten as his. LOL, hah, hah. Why, if they don't help? Sorry, I just have so much to vent!
WOW
I would go nuts.
Has your boyfriend taken her to the doctors for a mental eval?
language
My children never talked with lisps, improper grammar, I always corrected them. I don't really want them looking like they don't know what the heck they are talking about or for it to make me look bad either...
My SS6 on the other hand, I am always correcting his grammar, he will say "athing" for anything, "froat" for throat, "frew" for through, the list goes on, I correct him EVERYTIME, he gets upset with me, I just tell him that he is a smart boy, and that when he talks like that it doesn't sound so bright.
That's a tough one, because SS is ALWAYS being corrected, so his dad takes it as nagging and I'm not, I just know he is not a ding dong.
OH OH
Since you got a kid coming you can't back out of this situation without damaging another child.
Your husband needs to learn parenting skill but it doesn't sound like he's going to take advise from you. I'd suggest you get into counseling with him. He probably won't go at first so you go alone and take it from there.
Its amazing how much help a licensed, experienced specialist on marital problem can be. Ideally find one that specializes on step-parenting.
He needs to understand that his job as a parent is to prepare for his kid to make it in the real world. As you already know coddling a kid does not do that and in fact cripples the kid when its time to enter society.
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6 yr. old sd
Thank you all for input. Was thinking I was alone. It would never cross his mind to have her evaluated. He says she's "perfect". I use to think he was kidding but now I don't. Well, he has agreed to get her in counceling because of some serious things that have happened. I know my kids are crazy and wild, but at least mentally healthy, for the most part. He deals with mine differently. He believes he should be able to spend time with his daughter and buy her things and not have to get mine a thing. Then, when I go to take mine to buy them a toy or necessary items (clothes, shoes, hair things), he gets so mad because his daughter will throw a fit and he will ask why I didn't get her anything, tells her I don't care about her. I wonder why should I have to spend my childrens child support money on her? Every time, I have had to go back and get her something too, if not, he never lets it go. He has done it twice to me and never gotten them anything in return, just says it's not always fair and he was spending time with his daughter.
Agreed
I’m new to this site. And I hit -flag. I’m so sorry. I thought it meant flag save - I have much to reply to what you had to say. Brb