My DH and I only have alone time when SD isn't around. She's here every other week for the full week so those weeks draggggggggggggg and it feels like I don't even have a husband. I can't wait for her to be gone so I can get my life back. Pretty shitty way to live.

Can't fault DW there. We still have relations most nights, just have to be quiet.

Lots of confrontation and being relentless about establishing boundaries. It's very difficult. I've finally made progress on keeping SS out of our bedroom. But we manage to have alone time. It helps my SS is older, 16.

Even without kids/skids right now I don't even know what adult time is! With school/interning/work/kids/home what's left is for sleep.
One more month, and I can see light at the end, then it's called babysitters (my dd and parents watch SO's kids mine don't need a babysitter), after the kids go to bed, weekends when all 4 are with their other parent. Usually I try at least once a month to make sure we have a date night out even if it's 50 cent drafts on a Wednesday lol. Course my idea of adult time is doing something just for adults out of the house bedtime is entirely different and at that I'm adamant the kids keep their bedtime routines my oldest has learned if she's up she might hear something and that's what headphones are for. Us adults also have locks on the door!

I close the bedroom door and lock it. Unless the house is on fire, they know they better not open it. It doesn't matter if we're talking or getting it on. It's grown up time and it's important.

We try but it's hard. The kids know not to come into our room but our walls are thin and whenever we "have relations" (^^wink^^) everyone in the entire network can hear us. lol. Dh says he doesn't care, we're married, but I get tense b/c sure as the mosse live in Canada ss16 will make a snide remark the next day. I sometimes feel like slapping his silly little lopsided grin off his fat face. My kids never say anything. So for us it's hard. Yup, just down right difficult to get any time. And ss16 is here 24/freakin7.

I *try* to maintain the no kids in the bedroom rule. It's hard because he doesn't see the problem with it.

They do mostly knock these days if we are in there and the door is shut - walked in a few times and copped an eyeful LOL

We still have sex very regularly, whether skids are here or not. Mine are here most of the time anyway. I do notice that he is a LOT quieter on skid nights though...

I'm not }:)

I hate the skids coming into my room, but I never really minded my DD9 coming in when I was getting ready to go out or to work and things. I have had to put a ban on her now though, and I have explained why I was doing so, so the skids won't come in and everyone thinks it's fair. They still come in though, every bloody weekend, just walk right in whenever, drives me nuts. I have only just got SO to enforce the no kids in my bed rule, so it will probably be another 4 years before he enforces no skids in the room.

We have alone time when everyone else is asleep.