Well, it's over and done! A lot of work, but it came out beautifully

Of course BM was a major pill, but that's her problem. What kind of mother could have her oldest daughter get married without offering any assistance? SO and I did it all. She was pissed that I was wearing wedding colors (she did not) and that I was in the bride's room (I helped her pick out her dress and undergarments, paid for it, did her makeup and nails, drove her there, and she wanted ME to dress her). We were there three hours early to do this and BM blew in a half hour before the ceremony to shove her way in to zip her dress. I stood aside and tried to help SD18 with her wrinkled up dress and got the death stare, so I gave up on that, as well.

We fully intended/expected for her family to take the first seats on the bride's side and we would take the end (or the pew behind if she didn't leave room), but she seated herself several rows back. Friends had to go tell her that she was supposed to be up front, but she took the second pew. So we took first and had visiting family move up with us. I'm sure she'll spin it to look like we forced her to sit behind us.

She complained to someone at the reception that I was wandering around like I owned the place, even though I'm the one who orchestrated the whole thing. She contributed half of the hall rental, but I did all decorations, food, drink, favors, etc., plus our half of the hall rental. Of course I was busy checking the buffet line, talking to photographer and DJ to keep things moving along. If she wanted to be the host, she should have stepped up and done it!