Stepson lied for a year now I don’t trust him

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My stepson lied to my husband and I for a year about attending college, four and a half years ago. He'd either go to a coffee shop when he was supposed to be in class or make up lies about why he was home (including an elaborate lie about his professor changing his oil and his car fell on him). I was suspicious but my husband trusted him so I felt I should to. Then when it was time to do his taxes, the truth came out. He had dropped out and was on academic probation. I now don't believe a word he says and can hardly stand to be in the same room as him as I have discovered he lies all the time- about stupid things. He is 24 and lives with us. He supposedly will finish school next semester, getting his associates. He has a full time job and my husband doesn't think he needs to pay rent if he is in school. Problem is, it has taken him 6 years to get his 2 year degree. I don't see him moving out any time soon and I feel like I am a total bitch if I tell my husband he needs to move out.

Do I just continue basically ignoring him all the time? How can I figure out a way to be civil to him?

This is a really hard

This is a really hard situation. Has he ever shown remorse or apologized for lying? Does he pitch in around the house? Is there any evidence he's growing up since this lie? Does he have any real plans for the future?

One way is to look at his

One way is to look at his reasons for lying. When I was in college I had a boyfriend who did the same thing he lied to me and didn't tells me he dropped out. It took me at least a year until I found out. The only people he was lying to were me and his parents. He didn't want us to be disappointed in him. As far as I know his parents still believe he graduated.
I forgave him, but (unlike your ss) I didn't have to live with him (we had broken up by then) and he didn't lie about other stuff.

Having to live with someone you hate to be around and can't trust must be horrendous.

You are totally not a bitch for wanting him out. You might have to be smart about how you phrase things to get your husband on board too.

What a difficult situation. I

What a difficult situation. I don't know how or why there are so many younger entitled ground sloths living among us anymore, but I do know that poor widdle children of divorce often get treated like baby bunny rabbits that have been mistreated. Can you hang on through the next semester and start preparing your DH with discussions now about how when that fantastic AA degree gets here, Little Boy needs to get out and become a grown-up?
I also wonder: Does he help around the house?