I would love for her to pay rent. I even said something about it recently when she continued to pay for school and fail, it caused a HUGE fight between my husband and me. He has her on a pedestal so anything I say I automatically turn into the evil step mother. Even if he asks my opinion and I tell him what I think, he doesn't like it and gets mad at me. I finally told him don't ask me anything anymore. I told him she is causing a rift in our marriage.

You're right, I shouldnt be in her room but it smells so G-d awful. Last week agan it stunk. whenever I say anything to her she puts on these sad puppy dog face, I want to vomit, I've told her numerous times she's not cute. Whenever I complain that's when she decides to clean her room, she always comes out with a huge contractor bag of garbage. I told her if she's just on top of it it won't get that bad, she slammed the door in my face. When I told DH that and how she gives me looks that kill his response is, "I didn't see that" or "I'll talk to her" but he never does!!

I don't know if she's smoking but I have a suspicion. She was seeing this guy who smokes and she used to come home and stink up my whole house of smoke. I have a major chemical sensitivity and I made my husband break them up. I told him I was going to end up in the hospital. That was weeks ago, she's still seeing him of course because she still comes home reeking of cigarettes. I called her out on it Friday night, I went in her room to put important mail on her bed and it smelled like someone was smoking in there. She said it was her jacket and she needed to do wash. I told her I wasn't stupid, her room didn't smell stale it smelled fresh and new. She bats her little eyes to daddy and the 2 of them think I'm nuts.

She doesn't really have an actual boyfriend, she broke up with him to see smokey. I have a feeling she has more than one as she is constantly going out with different men in the evening. She never has anyone over when we are home but both DH and I work full time so who knows what she's doing. We also go to bed pretty early. She's pretty sneaky so I would t put it past her.

I just wish there was a way she would either leave on her own free will and join the circus or something. She's so disgusting, I was thinking g my only way for her to leave is if I forced her out by being evil step mother from Cinderella. I mentioned this to my bio kids and my BD12 said, "mommy she's not going to a ball." I just had to laugh. My kids don't like her as much as me, they are sick of her BS. My 12 year old was completely grossed out when I told her the source of the stench, you would think a 20 year old would be a role model for a younger step sister, my daughter can't get away from her quick enough.

She turned 20 last month but this has been an ongoing problem since we got married.

What will the moth balls do because don't they smell horrendous as well? I actually did dump it all on her bed but then I figured it would start a huge fight with dh so I put it all back and that's when I took one put it under her pillow with her vibrator to send a message that I know she's a disgusting pig.

As for bill paying, no we pay everything. She was going to go to school and paying thousands of dollars on her own since financial aid took the money away since she failed. Then my husband and I paid some money toward the second semester and then we found out that she failed again. Honestly she should be giving that money back to us but knowing him he will not ask for it. It irks me how she's always spending, spending,spending and every day she gets packages in the mail, that's why I told my husband that if she could go to school afford to go and fail and afford to constantly shop then she could afford to pay rent. We basically live paycheck to paycheck and and it's like she saying to us screw you how she uses her money so frivolously.

I'm going to do that. I don't know if she is home now and he's on his way home but if I find out she's not home, I'm going to go in there and throw everything it in a little pile and then bringing them and show him. It's time he steps up. We've had so many arguments over the years on how he needs to stop being her friend and be her father. It's maddening to me how my kids have consequences and get in trouble, things taken away ect. His claim to fame is she so wonderful he only have to smack her hand away from an electrical socket once when she was a little girl she tried to put a penny in it. He still stands by that motto today. Through the years together, she agitates me so much I actually get anxiety over this crap.

When I got home from work I didn't know if she was home. DH came home with my groceries but luckily we still needed milk so after finding out she wasn't home I sent him back to the store. I went in her room and made sure to dump a huge pile of her nastiness behind the garbage can, turned on the light and then started. Setting myself up to be extremely upset. He came home and I said I needed to talk to him, I used the downstairs bathroom and just standing in the hallway, I was able to smell her room and went in to investigate. I showed him what I found and he wasn't all that upset but he could see I was and said its disgusting and he'll talk to her. I said I can't continue this where she always smells and he said, "what should I do, tell her to move out?" {YES! That would be perfect, but of course I didn't say that} He ended up cleaning it and I walked away to cook dinner. While he was cleaning it he was gagging but he wouldn't admit it, he said it was from being hunched over, when he came back to the kitchen he had tears streaming down his face and he was still choking. Nothing more was said, at 9pm she comes strolling in and I said I did t want to be there for the talk. She said hello and I just walked away and dint even look at her or respond. I went upstairs to talk to my DD. When he came up to bed I asked him if there's something I should know? He said he told her "I always try to stick up for you with the smells but he's always getting yelled at from me and this time he went in her room and was shocked by what he saw. She said she cleaned it up and he said, no you didn't, I know because I cleaned it up. It is no longer allowed in your room and you are to wrap it up and dispose of it in the bathroom garbage." She still maintained that she thought she cleaned it up and he told her to knock it off, you didn't clean it, I did. I asked if she cried since that's her thing and he said no but he was ready for it and he wasn't going to fall for it.

He said her room smelled better after it was cleaned up.

As for her vibrator and dirty pad, I checked, she threw away the pad I threw away the vibe. If she's not mature enough to clean up after her menstral cycle, she's not mature enough to diddle herself. I'd love to be a fly when she starts looking for it.