Oh the entitled
I haven't posted on here in a while, but I just have to vent cause I can't talk to anyone else about this but, my god, SDipshit will never change. DH for the most part has cut off the gravy train, and dips hit has turned to all other members of the family she can sponge off of. She's preggo with baby 2 and moved out of the family members house she was living in rent free to move in with her BF who has his own place but no job, he was either fired or quit.
Well we have dipshits stuff at our house from when she moved out of her old place and had nowhere to put it. Incident 1, dips hit calls DH and asks him to look for her PS3 cause she has to sell it cause they are so broke, I just laugh knowing he's not going to find it( its just her subtle way of trying to get money) so after he goes digging I ask if he found it, which of course he hasn't. Her response "oh damn, I was going to sell it cause we need money, I don't know how Im going to get money now"
Ha, Incident 2, now mind you we've had her stuff for over a year, she again calls DH and asks if he can look for her and GK's winter clothes cause they have nothing to wear for winter and its so cold, so again DH goes digging through her stuff looking for their winter stuff. Again I laugh and ask DH wouldn't GK have grown out of any winter stuff she's had being we've had it for over a year, also what did they do last winter when their stuff was here, and 3 gkid came over the other day wearing a……jacket with a hat and gloves. Oh, and shocker he didn't find any winter stuff
Dipshit never ceases to amaze me, still doesn't take care of her kid, is having another one, no job, BF has no job, but instead of working to make money, dips hit just expects everyone else to foot the bill.
My MIL has been talking about how broke she is all the time ( she's always paying for everyone else's stuff, she's a wonderful woman but can't say no) DH asks me if we should give her some money, I said no, we can't afford it. Its not my problem if dipshit is cleaning everyone out cause they can't say no.
I am not going to go broke supporting people who can't help themselves. My MIL told me dipshit eats out all the time cause she can't eat home cooked meals, the crap with her never ceases to amaze me. Ive let go of worrying about her crap, the only time I'm concerned is when she tries to get money from us, when we have a family and household to support. Ugh !
If your DH is concerned about
If your DH is concerned about the well-being of the GK's he can always call and ask for a wellness check on the kids in the house. If they are not living in acceptable conditions, the authorities can and will step in.
Other than that, stick with your guns. You can't control other people from saying no, but you can make it clear that you will not enable this behavior. Out to eat because she can not eat home-cooked food? That's a new one. I thought I had heard every excuse from my DH's ex, but this one is even new to me!
Good luck.
Ya the Gks fine cause gk is
Ya the Gks fine cause gk is being raised by my MIL. Not my kid, not my problem lol and yes I had to LOL when my MIL told me that. "well she can only eat certain stuff, or else she gets sick" so those same foods can't be cooked at home ?
I will definitely always stick to my guns as far as the money goes, everything else I don't even worry about anymore. I rarely talk to DH about SD anymore and when we do discuss her I don't bad mouth anything just, "Hope everything works out for them". DH realized on his own earlier this year the type of person she is when he caught her in a lie. I have too many children and things to worry about than to deal with her crap. She's just drama and toxic and from what I read on here with SK's in their 30s and 40s acting the same way, I don't think she will ever stop. I don't want to come between my DH and SD, and I never will unless it pertains to money. He wanted her to come over to the house for dinner and I told him she is more than welcome to come over but if she disrespects me in my home, I won't be holding back.
She can eat home cooked meals
She can eat home cooked meals ~ at some point every meal is home cooked. Someone prepares it. That's called just being lazy ~ making dinner requires prep time. Get off your ass n learn how to cook dipshit.
Idea for Christmas present for her ~ would be cooking classes. Lol
The issue with her shit at your house ~ let me help you with that one.
Why don't you come over to the house n retrieve your belonging. This way you know what you have that can be sold.
I hope she is proud of herself ~ wiping out Grandmom financial ~ so proud of her. What a great job you are doing in today's society. Don't put your hand out dipshit ~ I might bite it.
LOL great post ENuff, the
LOL great post ENuff, the second time she called I told DH exactly that, to text her and tell her and BF to come get her shit. He didn't say anything. I told him the other day, not specifically about SDipshit but in general that "don't people get tired of being in everyone else's pocket, constantly asking DH, my MIL, my FIL, and anyone else for money and favors "? Don't you have any pride to want to work especially when you have a SECOND child coming ? How are you going to support your kids ?
It would be so different if she worked, had actual bills, and just needed help from time to time, but she can't do anything and EVERYTIME she reaches out, its money for this or that, which DH again tells her no (for most part), which was SO different from before. I know DH feels bad when he doesn't help her, but its tough love. It would be the same for my Bios, Im not going to help you if you can't help yourself. Id never leave them on the street or struggling, but I also wouldn't be just handing over money. You need food ? Ok, I'll buy you food or give you a gift card to a grocery store. You need to pay your electric bill ? OK give me account number and Ill call up and pay.
All she does is lie lie lie. NOT getting money from this household,lazy. NOT going to happen. My FIL is tired of giving her money and apparently cut her off, but I know my In laws and are probably looking to my DH to pick up the slack. NO, its called getting a job. SDipshit and I don't speak, she doesn't like me cause I speak the truth and I cut off her gravy train, and I don't like her.
Oh joy the holidays!