Hello everyone, up until I found this site I thought my situation was unique. I have been married to my H for 5 years and with him for 6. I don't have any children. He has one daughter - 27 - from his previous marriage. SD has never lived with us but has always been a problem between us. I'll try not to be too lengthy. She has rarely returned calls to daddy. She doesn't say "thank you" - and especially not to me. Thanksgiving and Christmas have been miserable. We used to invite her to lunch for say 1pm. Lunch would be cooked and we would be ready to eat. No SD, no call. We call. We MIGHT get a call around 2:30 to say she would grace us with her presence at say 3:15, then we would hear nothing from her and she would finally show up at about 4:30 saying how busy she has been. She isn't married and doesn't have a family but she was in school at the time. 2 years ago, I had enough and when she eventually deigned to call us I said to her "Well "Susie" how nice of you to take time out of your busy schedule to call!" Then she turned on the crocodile tears to daddy telling him that I had shouted at her - which I didn't - I just made it plain that I wasn't happy. We were paying for her car insurance and she had an at fault accident and didn't call her father. The first thing we knew was when he got a call from the insurance company a week later! Last year we went to her graduation and she snubbed me. Obviously because of what I had said to her the previous Christmas. He has enabled and allowed this continued behavior. He asked her to monitor her cell phone usage. We were paying at the time to the tune of $80 or $90 a month. She was running over on texting. She ignored daddy as she did when he asked her to please bank the check we gave her every month in a timely manner. I could go on and on. Anyway, after the snubbing incident I told my H that if that is how she is going to behave towards me then I will not make her welcome in our home. Daddy is so desperate to see her that he will put up with any mistreatment in order to do so. The problem is that her rudeness has affected me too. Taken up MY time and MY energy, not just his. Last year, I suggest to my H that she collect her Christmas gifts from him at his office. She said she would be there for 10:30. You guessed - she didn't show up or call. This year I have decided that if she wants her Christmas gifts then she can meet with both of us. I want to give her a 10 minute window. No show, no call, no gifts. I haven't told my H about this yet so I don't know how he will react. I would also like the opportunity to tell her what I think of her. Up until now I have kept my mouth shut for H's sake but she has caused so much trouble between us because of all this that I have had enough and because my H has disrespected me to her, I feel like I have nothing to lose. Oh I forgot - in 2007 she and my H concoctd a story between them that she had stuff taken from a friend's pickup truck. My H asked me if we could give her $500. It turned out to be a lie and the money was for his ex-wife. I was livid. I now refuse to give her money for Christmas - it has to be gifts or nothing. When I met my H he had been divorced for 4 years but separated for about 18, so it wasn't like I broke up their marriage. Any takes on this? I could go on but I am sure you have heard it all before!