So, DH has been jonesing for a sgd fix so bad that he's going to go pick up SD20 and sgd17mos. He's starting a new job next week and tomorrow is his last day at old job. Nevermind that I've begged for "couple time" for 2 years.  So be it.

My dad has a dance this weekend and dh knew this, so I will be heavily involved with helping her get ready. I've also been invited to dinner my my dd's bf's family,  so I'm going to dinner with them Saturday evening. 

I had called this weekend as off limits in setting my boundaries when SD20 was talking over the past few weeks about coming,  but she never got it worked out to come and I have a life outside of waiting for her to tell me again at the last minute that she isn't coming. 

I also have not busted my a$$ around my house after work to get ready for this visit. Dh can do whatever he feels needs to be done. I'm tired after work, too. 

Y'all,  I'm making progress in setting boundaries.  I can't thank you all enough!