Hello, new here. Having an issue with soon to be wife's kids. they are grown mind you. And haven't really been rude to me, however I did take offense to something said at breakfast, but held my tongue. Anyway, they are the ones that are on vacation NOT me. (and this is my first time meeting them). I work for a living, their mother is on disability and a fixed income, Anyway; I feel like a left over, a third wheel and least important. During their visit there have been a number of issues for me mostly. For instance, I was to meet them at the beach to tour the fort. The daughter didn't want to go see it because it’s too hot!! And she doesn't do heat. (Hello its summer in Florida! It Gets Hot!) They are from the north. Anyway I thought we were going to end back where my truck was with all my gear to swim. NOPE we ended up on the other end of the beach away from where I had parked and where we had agreed on to meet back at. Did that happen, NO! They all went swimming, left me on shore with the mother in the wheelchair. Talk about being hot!

I did say something to her, but it just didn't even phase her, just "oh sorry, but there on vacation, and I don’t know when they will be back this way". But when her washing machine broke, I'm golden. Should have known from the start when I got to the house, it was like why don't you take the boys out and do something with them!! I don't know these people, nor was I prepared to spend gobs of money on people that may or may not like me and I'm sure as hell not responsible for entertaining them! Or am I? (Tell if I'm supposed to do so). They were here to spend time with her, not me. This daughter seems to just walk all over her mother, I don't know if it’s because they saw their dad treat her like shit, and think that's the way she's to be treated, or its cause it’s her first grandchild, and she's just being stupid I just don't know. So rather than try to include myself in their outings I would just not go with them.

She (girlfriend) turns into a completely different person while they were here. (she also does the same thing when it just me and her boys, except she’s way more angry when they are around and she can’t get to me, so I’m like WTF). She acts way more lively, and stuff, but complains to me about them after they have gone! ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME???!!! They’ve run the car out of gas, she over spent her budget for food, bills and such to show them a good time. And they’ve completely taken over her house. And now since they’ve gone she says she needs help with bills!!! EXCUSE ME???!!!! I thought I was the one that told her in the beginning to watch her budget. (Me I'm more of stick in the mud I guess, I don't really just go with the flow) again this is not how I was raised. If you say you’re going someplace, or going to do something, then that's what you do! I don't mind being impulsive but I don't believe in the live for the moment bullshit either. Don't get me wrong, I like to party and play just as much as the next guy, but I still have to be responsible. My home is MY home, and is not to be disrespected torn apart or abused in any manner. Again am I wrong?

Anyway; I was invited to breakfast and to go to a museum as a family because I had told her I wanted to have a nice big family outing. Well that didn't happen. They wasted the day away because her daughter couldn't get her ring off her finger, something that should have been addressed the night before when it started to swell up and turn colors right?! I only have weekends off mind you. So I spent over half the day doing nothing and was told well take the boys on to the museum, and we will meet you there". Fine we get ready to go, and then she calls and says they aren't coming; they wanna go shopping after they got the ring cut off. I mean is this how you do someone, in a relationship! Dump your kids (son in law and 2yr old toddler) off on your boyfriend?!! And expect him to take care of and entertain?

Needless to say I said No! (we are not married, just dating and we don't live together, cause I want to be respectful of her mother, like I was taught. Whom is disabled that lives with her and fully dependent on her!) I politely said goodbye and left. I went fishing with my brother. I enjoyed the calm of evening and was very content. (Now mind you i come from a huge family as is. 4 boys, 4 girls, so I know how family acts sometimes. And she's yet to meet any of my family, as we are only dating at this point even though I have considered asking her for her hand. But after this I just don't know. I feel a bit overwhelmed and a bit put off by their behavior and such. Am I being overly picky, a selfish brat? Can you guys please weigh in on this? Also I’ve not seen her for over a week now, and didn’t make plans with them for the 4th So I will just spend it with my family and friends. Again am I being an ass about this?