Good for you!

That's great. You should be amazed at how much s/he can help. If you're not after a couple of sessions find another one. You should not have to go past perhaps six or eight sessions. Anything past that is just milking the cow - you.

Here's hoping for the best it should be a lot of help.

I hope it helps for you and you get your DH to go. I went to a counselor also and to my surprise after I told her everything that was going on and how I was treated by my DH, she asked "why are you still there????" Know how many times I have asked myself that and my situation isn't nearly as bad as alot on here.
My DH has agreed to accompany me today so I have hope.
It does feel great to have someone to talk to and I think you will find great relief in that alone.

Congratulations! Our first session is tonight. I have hope.

I agree with the posters who say if you don't get anything out of it, any rapport or insight, after a couple sessions then that counselor is not the one for you. I was terrified before doing this over a year ago that I'd get one of those counselors that you hear on here, who knew nothing about the subject but instead expected the step-parent to simply suck everything up and enable everyone else. Instead we got someone incredibly perceptive who made many helpful observations to the pair of us and who held the ring well when it came to what was dysfunctional between us. My advice is observe their approach carefully, check you have a good gut feeling about them, and then wait for them to do their stuff... they should be doing a lot of the work and you should see results at least in your own insights, pretty well immediately by the second session.

Our session went well last night. The therapist clearly summarized our primary issue and we each got to say a lot. A big suggestion she had was to see if I was willing to have a session with SD and my DH. I'm very leery of this. With a normal person, I would think this is a great idea, however, SD is not normal. I'm going to think it over and discuss it with my regular therapist. At this point it may be too soon to consider that option but I'm open to considering it. We have another session next week. My hope is growing.

Something to consider is your health care plan. I once was insured by an HMO. The counselors were competent but were limited time-wise for budget reasons. My DH and I went to two counseling sessions without really addressing our communication issues, let alone problems with SD. Your counselor seems to be moving a bit fast and I wonder if he/she is under time constraints. If so, look for someone who wants to take the time to fists and foremost, discuss the issues you and your DH are facing with the skids.

I really would not have therapy with a stepchild unless I had brought them up as a quasi-parent. Otherwise the therapist is likely working with too many givens of their own which I might not agree with, and, they will hear your spouse's intimate feelings about you which I would find unbearable if these included negative feelings. Am I naive about this? Could end up being intimate abuse.