I am new to this site. I had been married for my DH for about two years now. I finally have the guts to tell him what I really think about SD. He is an enabler. SD is 23 years old and graduated from college for almost a year now. Right after her graduation, DH and her decided that she needs to find another apartment closer to where she wants to work, which is about $2000 without a roomate. I told DH that it is not a wise decision because she has not find a job yet and 2000 is a big committment. However, it's his money. She moved in and a year later she still can not find a job. DH is way to scare to confront her and wanted to look good in front of her. In turns, he is suffering finacially and I got all the blame. Now, we have to pay his debt and he can not come up with the money. I helped him out with my saving. I asked him for his plans, because this is not going to happen again. He got mad at me. I told him that I can not be the person cleaning up his mess because he wants to look good in front of his daughter. I know that if I don't put a stop to it, it's going to happen again and again. I worked very hard to be where I am. I can't deal with getting into debt because his daughter needs to live close to work (without a job). I was so in love with him, but now I can't remeber the reason why. He offered to move out during the fight. I told him that he should do it right now, since he already have an apartment. SO, he packed up and left. I have not shed a drop of tear. Is there something wrong with me? I felt liberated, because I am not longer enabling his behavior and found relief. As of now, I am feeling kind of sad but still able to laugh and have a good time. Personally, I started to believe that SD is evil and I needed to rid of evil in my life. If it means I need to get rid of him, for be it. I don't want to be with a man who makes a vow to me and put someone else as priority. I don't know how this is going to end but I know that there are only two ways to resolve this issue.