Im a newbie on here, so apologies in advance for this rant but I need to get this outts me or I will explode!

I have been with my BF for over two years now, his wife left him 5 years ago and left him with three teenage boys. Two of them are no trouble at all, its just the one we are having trouble with. he has no boundaries, doesnt respect anyone including himself and has turned to alcohol and gambling to make himself feel better.

My major problem is that my BF is validating all of his behaviour and not seeing things from an objective perspective. We moved in togehter a while back and the youngest moved in with us as he is at college, the eldest one lives away from home and so did the middle one until I moved in with my BF.

As soon as I moved in the trouble started, which was one of my major concerns I had told my BF about before we moved. He assured me that under no circumstances was he moving in with us as there wasnt enough room and it was time he stood on his own two feet... That lasted for all of about a week....

My BF panders to his son's every need, as he says he feels guilty about their mom leaving when she did as she left and moved to another country a week before his 18th birthday. His son still has his mail sent to the old address where they all lived as a family and has made no attempt to change it so my BF has to have all the post redirected to the new house, we are currently storing most of his stuff at our new house and when I got home after a 12 hour shift at work i found that BF was doing sons washing too because hes meant to be going job hunting and to quote BF *He couldnt let him go out in dirty clothes*

About three weeks ago, middle son came to his dad and told him he was having trouble with alcohol as he had spent his entire weekly wage on beer and arcade machines and said he wanted some help.

So my BF agreed to help him and took him to see a doctor who recommended he get some counselling and see an alcohol support group. He agreed to this and said he was willing to give it a go.

The day before his appointment he decided he wasnt going, he was going on a trip with his mates instead. All his dad did was sigh and tell him it wasnt a good idea... he didnt evern *try* to stop him.

Middle son now has been kicked out of his rental place and has had to move in with a friend (BF is currently taking time out of work to help him move...) who just happens to live round the corner from our new place.

Im reaching the limit of my patience with this now and wish my BF would see that middle sons behaviour just isnt acceptable and he *has* to move on with his life as he is stopping his dad moving on with his. Its not me so much Im bothered about but both of them, theyre wasting their time on this stupid battle and not getting anywhere.