Have to say, it was very nice to hear that someone has my back in case DH doesn't want to handle Twit. That's my girl!

Yes, guess I did do a pretty good job there. Although there were many a time we had "differences" when she was growing up. I believe I once told her, when as a teen she gave me that nonsense about this was a democracy (our house - I was a single parent then) and I responded that I wasn't running a democracy as long as she was under 18 and I was paying the bills - I was the dictator. But she turned out pretty good. I learned back then I could not be her BBF and be a parent. We didn't get real close buddies until she was getting married, after college. Our young take time to get dry behind the ears, so to speak.

Twit, on the other hand...what can I say

DH has been trying to contact Twit but she still hasn't returned his calls. He's not angry with DD, he agrees she is right, though he still doesn't understand why I am scared of the Twit (oh those blinders).

Me? I think Twit is laying real low because she might be nervous about my calling the police on her. She has to know if Daddy is looking for her it is not to praise her actions. She has got to figure out some story to tell him about why she acted as she did - I don't think her hormones, etc. are going to fly this time.

And yes it is a great Mother's Day gift, though she doesn't know it. she gave me one already!

I know she will also call tomorrow for Mother's Day. That is how we are.

Feel sorry for the Twit. She has 2 loser sons and one I'm not sure which way he will go, that she supports because they have various problems (one weights over 325+ lbs and only works pt. time, and you all know about the drunkie. I am now of the opinion there is a reason why they turned out that way....losers. But then Momma Twit has never been able to hold down a regular job either, which is why she gets into the Pot and Pan business and things like that.

The "truth" may be starting to come out....let's hope so. Yesterday DH mentioned that he got custody of Twit because the Mother couldn't handle her, Twit just didn't/couldn't get along with the Mother and the other siblings. Okay. I then asked how long she was with him. Oh, about 2 1/2 years until she graduated and married right away.

I then, quietly asked him if she had had any counseling. He said she did because she would act out about things, get all emotional about nothing. Any diagnosis? ---- No, he said he was just told b the school counselor. So what did he do? Well, because he worked long hours back then, Twit was on her own quite a bit and he felt he wanted things to be nice when he was around.

Now, from my reading on narcisissts, etc., I find that children are not diagnosed with anything until they reach 21 or so, but it does seem that Twit was off to a good start.

Her first marriage, according to DH, was very volatile. He didn't hear from her much during that marriage, but she was at the opposite end of the country (oh don't I so wish she was there NOW). She did her about how terrible the husband was etc., and that she was divorcing him. He was a jerk, etc. BUT, and here is the interesting thing, she divorced the first hubby and immediately married the second, current one. In fact, she, according to DH, waited to file the divorce papers until the first hubby was off, out of the country, on military duty!

That was all he shared yesterday and I am still thinking about it. I'm sure there is much more to come.

Well, after days of hiding out and not answering DH's repeated calls and messages to her, Twit called this morning. DH put it on the speaker phone (afterwards he said he didn't want to hide anything from me).

Oh Twit was crying, she is so scared of me because I called the police on her. HOW could I do such a thing? Now EVERYONE knows that she had the police called on her (hey, my neighbors, nice people that they are, have extended families and do talk) and my terrible actions are going to hurt her pot and pan business. Woe is she. How could HE allow me to do such a thing to her? She has been having such a terrible time dealing with the drunkie, the lawyer, that her hormones are all out of wack. She needs to see her doctor to get some different medication. (Haven't we all heard THAT before)

When DH got a word in, he told her she was totally out of line barging in here and screaming at me. That I was right to call the police (WOW, he hadn't told me that before) and if she does it again he will if necessary.

Told her it was HIS decision not to tell me about his surgery because of the way she acts out towards me on things.

Oh how she cried, it was not her fault....I am the one that called the police, he has to understand.

Guess he is going to call her back and set up a time for them to talk. She asked if I was coming because she didn't want me there, in her house. DH told her that I would not be coming....I would be dropping him off and picking him up, but not staying. This situation was between him and her and things had to be straightened out, he isn't going to tolerate her nonsense any more.

Well folks, we will wait to see what happens not. No date or time has been set so who knows. But hearing what DH told her she has got to be thinking of ways to get DH to back her like usual. I bet she is shaking in her boots because he didn't give credence to any of her excuses and was very curt with her. You could tell he was not happy.

That he wants to come down and talk to her about this situation and other things and doesn't want to do it on the phone. She said that, due to his condition she would come up here, but DH told her definitely not.

Well, DH met with the Twit and, as figured, she went into major crying, poor her, frenzy, according to DH.

He told her that he just can't deal with her and her problems any more and to leave us alone. Do not call, do not send anything, no contact. He is sorry it has come to this but we are both stressed out by her actions. He said he told her that running into our house screeching at me is something that neither he, or I, will tolerate any more.

When I picked him up from Twit's he was walking, as best he can in his condition, down the street away from her house, so I think that speaks volumes. Says he didn't want to sit or stand around the front of her house waiting for me, though I was there pretty quickly.

He didn't say much at that time, it has only come out bit by bit, probably as he can deal with it. Must be tough to have to tell a adult child that you no longer want anything to do with her.

At first, she clogged up our phone with messages crying how she will change, she didn't mean the things she has done. Even the it is HIS fault she is like she is. It is all because of her stress with Drunkie, she is not happy with her husband and wants to leave him but has no where to go, (yeah, I bet. She NEEDS someone because I believe she has a major fear of being alone and having to face herself), her meds and hormones, all the typical BS we generally hear. When I heard that one I told him that it has taken her years to become what she is, long after the few years she lived with him, and she had the option for counseling to deal with it as many children of divorce have.

We use our land line for business so we can't just unplug it....bummer. But both of us are deleting her calls as soon as we see they have come in.....unheard, which is important.

I think DH is going to be down for a bit. THOUGH he did call my DD and told her what he has done regarding Twit. He wants DD to know that he is protecting me the best he can.

Sadly, I don't think Twit will give up this easily but one can hope at this point. Going out antiquing today and for lunch far away from the phone and the house so DH doesn't have to put up with her pleas etc.

Yes, I am sure to DH it is like a death, to have to cut her out of his life. And he has been pretty somber the last couple of days. I just hope he doesn't, at some point, blow up at me and that it was my fault he had to cut her out. That I could not handle, and quite frankly, if he does, that would be the end for us.

I guess Twit's hubby called about how upset she is about things, she feels so bad because of what he said to her and told him that "she doesn't forget". Now what that means, if that is a warning or what, I don't know. Regardless, I already know she doesn't forget because she lives in revenge mode. I noted, to myself, how even now she is playing the pity party mode for her hubby...poor her, she has done nothing, nothing to deserve this. I can just imagine. And if I have any insight into that family, I would bet that Drunkie and Twit's husband are being very, very sympathetic to her - for their own survival.

Umm, perhaps she should have felt bad when she hurt DH and me all those times, but that never bothered her, only when she didn't get her way.

Wait a couple of months when the house gets a For Sale sign in front of it. You can bet she will be "checking" on us to see what we are doing etc.

I am going to an auction tomorrow and so far DH is going along, at least for awhile. I told him already I don't want to hear anything about my saying "Hi/Goodby" etc. to her. I am done. I don't know how he is going to handle it if she is there. That is up to him. And maybe I am already going too far out.....she might not even be there....hopefully.

DH has been quiet these last few days, and we are avoiding any Twit phone calls, delete them without listening to. Hopefully things will be brighter over the upcoming holiday weekend.

As I said Twit isn't going to quit she is gonna try anything and everything she can think of to get DH back into her web.

Last night one of her many, many calls got through to our land line before it went to the answering machine. Oh, now Twitty is having a garage sale and wants to know if DH wants to drop anything off for it. DH and I looked at each other and jointly said to each other NO, not interested.

DH said she has brought this situation on herself by the way she treats not only me, but him as well. I was glad to hear that, but kept my mouth shut figuring I would post my feelings on things here.

Anyway, she said she was not going to be home and gave him a specific time that he should call her back one way or the other - do note specific - always wanting to be in control, our Twit. DH, for some reason, called back to just leave a message that we were not interested and got Twit's hubby so he left a brief message with him. It was very short - thanks for the offer, but no thanks. DH said he did that because he doesn't want her pestering us, through the phone, on that matter. Will be interesting to see what her next step is going to be.

We both know, but left it unsaid between us, that anything a Twit would offer comes with hooks. She never, ever does anything for any one for nothing.

Surprisingly, I am feeling very calm. It is a good feeling to know that people, like my DD and her wonderful husband (who also says Twit is crazy) have my back, just in case.

This cretin just doesn't give up. We were gone over the holiday weekend and she clogged the answering machine. This morning she evidently called - it went to machine and I just happened to hear it before erasing it. Twit wants to know if we want her to bring one of her "babies" up to take the wood to the dump, to just let her know. Okay, DH asked for help with this wood over 3+ years ago!!! Twit was always too busy and would let him know. Fortunately, we have some real nice neighbors who help us with it and hauled it to the dump.

I actually laughed when I heard this from her....she is reaching for ways to make contact with DH.

DH has been adjusting. The other day we were talking something about lawyers, and DH brought up Drunkie and how Twit has already had that DUI going on for 15 months and will probably, according to him, drag it on for another 5 years because she doesn't want Drunkie to face the music and pay the fine. He was disgusted and I stopped him from talking about her by "suggesting" that we not ruin our day by bringing Twit or Drunkie up. It is not our problem. Did it very sweetly and DH agreed.

So far so good, Twit hasn't gotten through to us or showed up. I feel the weight lifting off my shoulders, and it feels good. My stomach is starting to unclench.

Now I feel I would like to share some of the strange, erie things that Twit has said and done in the past 4+ years. Many would curl your toes. At first one doesn't believe or understand what one just heard or witnesses, but then, with knowledge and the help of you good folks the pattern comes together and the reality of what Twit is sets in. It isn't pretty.

FWIW, here is just one example of Twit talk. I had broken the clasp on my watch while Twit was around. I asked if she knew a good place to take it to have it fixed. Twit responded - in front of DH of course - "Oh, my hubby fixes jewelry (he was there) and will fix it for you BUT only after he fixes the broken costume jewelry I have.....and I have a lot of broken costume jewelry to be fixed. DH thought it was so wonderful, what she offered. When I pointed out to him, later, that what she really said was not to bother her hubby with my watch, DH got on me about that, that was not what she said. He disagreed. Regardless, I went and found someone to fix the clasp. But DH was so proud of the Twit for offering.

You know, when I hear things like that from Twit one really has to wonder if you hear it right, but you do. She talks like this a lot, about a lot of things and it is very confusing....meant to be confusing so she can twist it any which way she likes. Knowing this cretin like I do now, you can bet she would have pitched a fit at DH if I had given the watch to her husband to be fixed because SHE has so much costume jewelry to be fixed FIRST.

Or the time the 4 of us, back 4 years ago, were at an antique mall and she, right in front of the counter, started eating (I don't want to get more graphic) her hubby's ear! At first I thought she was whispering to him, but she wasn't. It was so embarrassing and inappropriate!

Or the dancing in my driveway proclaiming that she was not normal and had never been normal.

And these are some of the minor ones. I think getting them off my chest to someone will really help because I feel I am holding secrets for her.

Like when she bragged to me, after having her hair cut, that her boss told her to grow it back because he didn't like it. And her boss had to keep his wife away from her, and the hour long phone calls he made to her. How her boss cried to her that his wife was abusing their children (all under 5). Twit would dress up to the 9's going to work in a trailer office. When I asked why her boss did these things? She got all upset crying to my DH that I was accusing her of having an affair! I didn't accuse her of anything, I just asked why her boss did those things and that if the children were being abused she should let children services know. Shortly after that, her husband made her quit that job....wonder why?

Or the old man in her neighborhood she claims is lusting after her, talking in appropriate to her, etc. YET, she will tell you she invites him over for dinner etc, has coffee with him.... Heck, I have met this man and he has always been very nice, polite, etc. when I have seen him. I think Twit is delusional on this and craving for attention on how desireable she is. But about the boss....I do believe she was having an affair from the way she talked, acted, etc. It was like she wanted us to know, but didn't want any one to comment on her cheating.

What I am trying to say is that she actually brags about the things she does, appropriate or not, and then gets upset that you know about them. It is like she has no moral compass about many things.

Good news, so far DH is holding is own against Twit. We were at an auction Sat. and I won a whole box of crystal upscale paperweights. Twit showed up at the auction I spotted her but said nothing BUT, when she saw DH carrying the box of pricey paperweights, she went running up to him - oh how glad she was to see him, ignoring me, which was just fine. She started asking what DH was going to do with the paperweights - she collects them and they were pricey and hard to find. I chimed in that they were for sale in our store. The immediate crestfallen look on her face was priceless....she was hoping DH would give them to her.....free of course. DH told her the same thing - we have a business and she can buy them, if she wants them, from our store. You see, Twit would in the past tend to ignore what I said and try to wheedle DH to give her something for free, of course).

She, not getting what she wanted from DH, immediately started crying, turned and left tears running down her face 'cause that is how she operates. She expected DH to go after her and offer her the paperweights so the poor little cretin would feel better, assage her poor greedy feelings, give her what she wants. Didn't happen. I know that must have shocked the begesus out of Twit because that is one of the ways she gets what she wants.

I think she left shortly thereafter because I didn't see her in the crowd later. Too bad, so sad.

DH said, on his own, going home that he wasn't going to give her a cheaper price or anything. That we are a business and (this was interesting to me) many times she would beg, cry for something from him and then turn around and sell it to make a buck! Yep, she does this, but prior to this DH never said anything, almost seemed like he never noticed.

Maybe, friends, maybe DH is finally getting the message. Yippy for a win on my side!

I am posting things that the evil Twit has done because it give me relief to be able to tell people. This after years of DH poo pooing me, telling me Twit didn't mean what she said, I misunderstood, etc. THAT, my friends, was one of the reasons my DD stepped in to this matter.

It was obvious to all that DH knew something about Twit that he didn't want revealed, shall we say. That he felt he had to placate her because she would run off or too him crying about how she had been maligned by me or whomever. She is real good at blowing up at me and then crying to DH about how badly she was treated eventhough I had done nothing but be shocked. THAT is her mode of operation.

Well, this morning DD called and she, her hubby and the grandkids are coming down later this week to spend a week with us. She also wants to check up on what is going on....reinforce to DH that this Twit BS has to stop.

Like some of you have posted, people now know about Twit, the police, my DD has spoken up, and made it known that it is not appropriate. You see, until I threw DH out over a year ago, I felt I was being pushed into a corner, isolated, told that things that were said to me were not so, etc. When this first starts, one is confused, what just happened? I know what I heard and what I saw.

When I said enough was enough, DH started to get the idea I was damn well serious. And in all due respect, he has been working on it, and has made progress, but Twit is a mighty twisted opponent.

This situation is going to get solved one way or the other and DH knows it. Sadly, I do expect her to surface again, probably Father's Day as she will see that as an opportunity.

As DD says, when someone tells you they are evil, crazy, etc., believe them.

I want to say, it took DD awhile to really get a grasp on what was going on with Twit as well.

But, as she and I discussed, when Twit tells you she is having an affair, brags about how her boss has to keep her away from his wife etc., and then goes off the deep end screaming and crying to DH that I accused her of having an affair with her then boss, that is nutz. It was as though Twit wanted me to acknowledge how "beautiful and desireable" she was....bragging. Same when she stole the contacts from the other team member she was working with. Twit bragged about it, it wasn't her fault. I recall asking about the team member and was told that "the loser quit".

I find it very disturbing when I would hear what she was saying. Also, disturbing was that when she said such things in front of DH or her husband, they both acted like it was normal! For a long time I didn't understand that but now I know it is because Twit goes off in such tangents that no one wants to cross her. Very scary.

As I posted here earlier, DD is here this week with her family. We are all having a nice visit
But I just have to share this with you all.

Seems, while we were fixing breakfast this morning, Twit called....again.... DD saw her name on the caller ID and picked it up saying, sweetly: "AND, what is it you want." Upon hearing DD's voice Twit hung up and hasn't called since then. She is probably shocked and peeved at the same time. Give her time, the rage her kind is well known for is probably building. But for now, peace.

Love it!