If he does go and folds under their RIDICULOUS DEMANDS they will think that they can say and do whatever they want and he will come running and choose THEM over his own wife!!! They are being the selfish ones! If they dont like you that is fine, but to take it out on their own father and not letting him see his own grandkids because of it is immature and ridiculous to the max!!!

They are adults and they have their own lives that they are living and you and your dh are a family now and he should stand by you, his wife, as a united front! Let them all know that they have no power over him or your relationship etc.

sd20 will be having a baby in november. i told fdh when we found out that i was not throwing or going to a shower (her shower was saturday, i did not throw and i was invited because my money is always welcome but i did not attend), and that i am not going to the hospital. i am not babysitting. i am not doing anything. i told sd the same thing. she seemed to somewhat accept it at first, but after 2 months of me not asking her about anything, she realized i was serious, got pissed, and tried to guilt and shame into playing concerned mother to her and grandmother to be to her kid. i am 34, i am no one's grandmother.

i meant what i said. i have limits and boundaries when it comes to her. i don't care how she or anyone else feels about it. i have damn good reason for the decisions i make when it comes to her. you need to do what makes you comfortable. if you want to go and wait in the waiting room, do it. if you don't want to go at all, you don't have to. to me, it makes no sense to want to bond and have a relationship with sd's spawn when i can't stand the mention of her name. i don't want her in my life. she is a huge source of stress and anger for me. so yeah. not interested in having anything to do with her kid, either.

Crazy that these stepkids are suppose to be adults that act like they are 13. They need to look to the future not live in the past. Geezzzzzz, all they are becoming is miserable, lonely, vindictive adults, with a dark cloud hanging over them. I'd leave the crazy @ssholes to their sick little lives and make it a point to make mine the best if can be to really piss them off!!!

I am new her and wish to post a question about adult SD with a child.

December babies have been known to bring peace, not war. Is there a member of the clergy you could reach out to, or a respected member of your community who would have the moral authority to help your family set things right and in the spirit of the season try to bury the hatchet? Do you think there could be an opportunity there to mend fences and celebrate the blessed birth? Tidings of comfort and joy, you know... ( i am not Christian but i love Xmas). I have visions of Touched by an Angel dancing in my head... Xmas is a great moment in time to offer love. Do you think your SKs might be tempted to do so? It is very hard to dislike those who come to adore the baby. Ask the Magi....

If your dh wants to go see his granddaughter so be it. Stay home or go out and enjoy yourself.
When my dh's kid had a baby (btw dh paid the $500.00 deductible for the bum who knocked up his princess for medical expenses while she was in the hospital after giving birth)I was pretty upset about that one but that is now water over the dam. To make a long story short his grandkid who is 15 yrs, old now does not want much to do with her own grandfather so that's the way the ball bounces "BRAINWASHED" by his backward previous marriage and that family. As for me no skin off my nose. That whole family turned dysfunctional and thank the good Lord I am not included or involved, who needs the grief. The more you do for some people the more they shit on you. Fool me once shame on them, fool me twice shame on me. Some of us have got to learn the hard way...