Adult Skids back home--would love some advice or opinions
I would love to hear advice/opinions from anyone with an adult skid. Mine is 30 and just moved back in two months ago with a phone call saying i'm two hours away....and he has been at my house ever since. He has one child who is under a year old and now got another girl pregnant. I had to go out of town recently and he stayed at my house for about 10 days while I was not there. My one request was please do not have anyone over. I had a neighbor keep an eye on my house and his pregnant girlfriend, who I do not know, was there a lot and stayed over. I confronted him and as usual, he lied and said she was not there. But when I got home, I confronted him face to face and he started yelling and cursing. He said she was only there one night, lying about the initial lie. He is very irresponsible(too much to list)and does what he feels at the drop of a hat. All the places he has ever rented, he usually just skips out on the built up owed rent and moves to a new place. I feel this is a very bad example for my two teenage children. Is it right of me to just want him out of the house and go and take care of his own responsibilities rather than bring all that drama in my home?
How is your spouse handling
How is your spouse handling this? Was your spouse there when you were out of town and allowed his GF to come over?
Where are the bio parents of
Where are the bio parents of this guy?
He should not be there. He is
He should not be there. He is a grown man with responsibilities. Tell him to leave asap.
He needs to get out ASAP.
He needs to get out ASAP.
When I moved back home 1
When I moved back home 1 time, I had a job and payed rent. There were rules I had to go by and was not a problem for me. Most of the time I was at work. Your husband needs to lay down the law and tell him to get a job even if he has to work 2 jobs, start saving. Give him 6 months and if he doesnt have it together by then to bad. I had to do this with my son.
he started yelling and
he started yelling and cursing?? i would never tolerate this from a "guest" in my home. his shit would be in the front yard and the locks would be changed. did you tell your DH about this?
Out - today. He has to sleep
Out - today. He has to sleep in his car? Too bad. Time to grow up.
We both know that that is exactly what he needs. Rescueing him while he goes about getting women pregnant is exactly the opposite of what is needed.
I assume your spouse is mixed in this somewhat so you may have to compromise on how long he stays but the end of January is more than sufficient.
I would threaten a legal seperation with a spouse if I had to - the way he treated you - is he going to hit you next? No this is not a out of control 14 year old. Out - now is too soon.
My spouse and I were both out
My spouse and I were both out of town when this occurred and we both had a talk with him(SS) before we left town. We made it clear no one was to be in the house but him. I since found out this happened a few other times, and again lies were told to cover up other lies. My husband was not at all happy either and asked him when he is getting his own place. Let's just say .... the adult skid will now be moving out. Thank you to all who responded. It really helps to hear from others that know the trials of dealing with step issues.
He's an adult,there needs to
He's an adult,there needs to be rules..your house, your rules weather he is 3 or 30.He should be paying board and helping around the house.Glad your husband is on the same page as you..good luck