mediation divorce in California
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My husband divorced his ex wife using mediation in Los Angeles, California. Unfortunatally, he bent too much to her demands and she came away with much more than he got left with. Now, she gets a hefty sum of alimony each month, the house, the cars, and does not-and never did work, before,during or after the marriage. So, my question is- would a court possibly lower the alimony payment, and how do you do this.
Alimony? I thought that died
Alimony? I thought that died with the uprising of women's liberation and rightfully so. You want independence? You got it.
Even 'dtzyblnd' above noted that her exBIL's sister only got it while going to college so she could be self-supporting.
I think 'notasm' is wrong in her comments above. The assets are gone but I think unless she can show proof that she's unemployable (no arms for instance) a judge will tell her to get to work and end the alimony.
Reduction of child support to state suggested minimums has to be considered especially after she gets a job. Might be better to wait on that and just try to end alimony now and when she becomes self-supporting go for child support reduction down to what the state considers the minimum allowed.
You'll need an attorney for all of this.
I can't say a thing about he
I can't say a thing about he age difference between your sister and XBIL.
I am happy to hear that at least your XBIL is a good dad to your niece.
Fortunately the great state
Fortunately the great state of Texas is a community property state. Alimony is a rare thing and only awarded in sever cases of extremely high income of one spouse and great sacrifice for the other. e.g. One spouse puts the other through Med school.
My MIL is proud that she has
My MIL is proud that she has been divorced from FIL for 20 years and has never worked a day in her life as he gives her alimony and she lives in their family home.
He has stopped paying recently and is several months behind (interesting how he is also recently remarried to wife #3, but I digress).
I think she should have had a back up plan instead of "oh, my exH is supposed to support me for the rest of my life).