So my SD4 lives with her father and me full time. Her BM gets her every other weekend and we meet half way for all of her appointed time. However recently she asked to have her for a week. We agreed but told her that since it is extra time not originally given to her she would need to be responsible for the pickup and drop off and the cost of daycare for that week since we need to pay it to hold her spot. (She does not pay child support and our agreement states she is responsible for half of all daycare costs, which she has never once paid in over 2 years)

After almost an hour of her arguing and refusing to do a full pick up, She is now demanding an earlier pick up time that does not work for us (and we had already told her doesnt) and says she is only responsible for half the cost and will only pay half. I told my fiance that we should just agree to the half Payment, but again tell her the time doesn't work. We are going to court in one week, we can always discuss future Payment then. We don't want to be a pain but she isn't willing to bend on anything, it's always her way or no way.

I was just wondering if anyone has gone through similar situations and how they handled it. We want her to see her daughter and be fully involved. However she is so inconsistent and until we filed for court only took her once every 2 months or so, when it was convenient for her. It just seems to get harder and harder to deal with her as time goes on. Thanks in advance for any advice!