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Submitted by kaseynboys on Mon, 07/18/2011 - 4:53pm

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This is supposed to be the last week of my skids 6 week summer visit. I am on the phone with SO now (he is on his way home from wk) and I mentioned during conversation that the kids wont be here next week. He then states: "Oh I don't know, you know she is enjoying her freedom so they may get to stay longer" UMMM EXCUSE ME?!?!!? I AM THE ONE STUCK HOME WITH THESE BRATS ALL DAY EVERY DAY!!!! No more!!!!!!!!! I did my 6 weeks..... including keeping the brats one of the weekends BM was to have them!!! WTF?? He didn't ask me about keeping them longer.... he f'ing TOLD me!!!

OK..... vent over.

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Submitted by caregiver1127 on Mon, 07/18/2011 - 5:10pm

Tell him they can stay if he took vacation next week because you have made plans and will not be there to watch them - then see how quickly they go back to their mom - funny how some of these men want their children but only if the SM is watching them. Tell him your kids - your problem and then make plans!! And why do men think it is okay for BM to enjoy her freedom these are her children not yours - tell him you enjoy your freedom as well and will be taking it starting next week!!!

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Submitted by hopefulSM on Mon, 07/18/2011 - 5:23pm

Wow, sounds like something my DH use to say to me. I agree with the other poster. My DH seemed to want to have SD, but only when me and my girls were home. I also agree, tell him that you would LOVE to have the kids longer, but that you already have plans for the remainder of their summer vacation so that he will need to make different arrangements for them if they are to stay longer.

It also irritates me to NO end that BM gets a "break" at My expense all the time. BM has ONE DD to take care of and yet she gets EVERY Wed. night and every other weekend and any request for Dh to take her extra. I have 4 other kids other than SD and I NEVER get a moment to myself. I don't think I have ever been home alone and I rarly get to leave my house without at least one kid in tow (other than work). Yet, he doesn't get that I get irritated when he decides to take SD extra and to not even inform me, let alone ASK me about it.

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Submitted by Zoie on Mon, 07/18/2011 - 5:29pm

Well that's not right..He cannot just expect you to drop everything and take care of them..not to mention he did not even speak with you first..You are the one taking care of these children..your time is valuable and maybe you had some plans of your own,..

NO NO No....Just tell him Sorry Honey you are going to have to take vacation time as I have plans... Smile Smile

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Submitted by GoodbyeNormaJean on Mon, 07/18/2011 - 5:58pm

Um, yeah, they could have stayed longer, maybe, if someone had had the courtesy of running it by you with a little advance notice. Too bad that didn't happen. Looks like they'll be going home right on schedule.

And maybe next time everyone will be a little more considerate.

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Submitted by BellaMia on Mon, 07/18/2011 - 6:01pm

Like!

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Submitted by 3terriers on Mon, 07/18/2011 - 7:29pm

Wow...definitely needs to be a coversation. I have had plenty of extra duties with the skids. Have been times where I've been the one to take care of step-dog, step-fish, and step-hamster. I have since been reformed.

BM takes a ton of vacations and getaways. I sometimes resent that.

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Submitted by alwaysanxious on Mon, 07/18/2011 - 7:40pm

Response to DH: So DH, will you be taking off to watch them? I won't be here. Since I didn't know I made plans.