I wondered why we SP see our SC on different way, 

Is that because we don't have a biological feeling for them, so we can't understand their behavior or theirs BP because feeling of guilt allows everything. 

In my case i still have big problems with ex wife, she make our life miserable, somehow she have my husband parents on her side,tthey hate me and ignore my husband, basically take his authority on his kids, always tell him he should back to his ex and tell him that his kids will hate him. 

My husband mother and his ex wife live to make our lives miserable, his ex work in his parents company they paid everything for her and kids, they paid for house keeper and nanny , ex wife doesn't have no one responsibilities for her own children only she birth them and use that very good to get what she wants, go together on vecations, pretend that i doesn't exist basically grandma is very physically mentally person who thinks she can rule his son's life. 

Kids come to us when they needed something or they don't have something in their mother's house or they are punishment for something (by grandma side because thier mother pretend be an angel, she is a good mother who is unlucky she is poor she had nothing ang all that stuff to make children and other people  sorry her. But in fact she is parasite who doesn't know do anything for living who suck them from her 18 years. The older only lying and manipulate with everyone all day sit eat (he is very fat) and gaming ps4 and the younger too he is mummy boy he had great teacher his brother and his mother and when they are in my home always reminding me on their mum and how they were lucky all together. I think they pretending i am like their nanny and use me. And my honesty to make their dad to forgive them for something or don't be strong to them. 

But in fact i feel they hate me!

Please help with your advice inam alone in this 

No friends no family