This is so weird to me - someone totally unable to manage time, schedules, is forgetful, unorganized, needs reminding, screws things up based on lack of memory. Is this familiar to anyone?

I believe it comes down to lack of caring personally. If you CARE, you manage to get things done in a timely organized fashion - and done properly.

BM in our life has screwed so many things up I've lost count because of her scatter-brained personality and inability to use a watch or be organized at all.

For example:
- Girl scouts for SD - she doesn't manage the schedule and screwed up a camp, cookie sales and a party for her troupe because of this.
- Letters of permission - she 'forgets' or in the case of document renewals, completely messes up the due date/screws up the necessary requirements for documentation (ie. signature, supporting documents - for health cards, passports, anything for school, the list is endless).
- Requirements - ie. sports equipment/clothing, needs for anything (ie. plays at school, special events, $ due for trips/pizza days)
- Vacations - if it's her choice in a particular year, and she is to submit her decision for vacation with the skids - if her deadline is X date, she forgets or can't manage her schedule/daytimer/etc and manages to finally get her act together usually 6-8 weeks after the due date.
- the custody/visitation schedule itself, which is set in stone as per the parenting agreement - completely messed up several times over the last 7 years by BM that she needs reminding. We have in our calendar to remind her about things (especial holidays and extended periods). I had DH delete these because it's her responsibility as a parent and an adult at that, to be organized and not screw up.

She's a total mess. The slag can't even drive without crashing her vehicle into guard rails (or backing up into poles) because of her inability to concentrate on the task at hand - which is driving a vehicle. Mind you years ago she came out with an admission of an 'imaginary world with many characters where she spends a lot of of her time.' - yeah........this may be a contributing factor.

I abhor disorganized people like this. I just cannot fathom how you can have dependents and *not* manage your time with them and important things in a responsible manner. And I really look down on her for this, I can't help it. It's such an easy personal thing to fix, I guess due to her laziness she just *can't* get her act together. Combined with all her other issues it's a mystery to me why DH would ever be with her, because now he thinks she's grotesque and frankly, stupid.

*sigh* - waiting the next moronic move from this woman. ~ Christmas is coming and there has *never* been a year when she hasn't completely made an ass of herself by not being able to follow the schedule or practice any form of time-management.

She's just such a massive screw-up! It really is baffling. Because I know it's not deliberate. She comes by her stupidity honestly. She has an *okay* job, a very large over-inflated ego - but still, not the brightest light on the tree.

Does anyone deal with this??? I want to punch her out every time her scatter-brain screws up something that affects the skids.