What's the split like? If any?
Just prepping myself for what some have warned me about on here.
If DH has a child, and now we're having one together, I was told the child we have will always be treated like #2.
Naturally, this is my flesh and blood and first child on the way, so he'll be treated #1 by me regardless, and his DD5 will never be put before my son when it comes to my love and attention.
DH has always told SD she's the "Center of daddy's world" and "Daddy loves her most", so I take it it's already branded in her head, and she'll be a complete brat (Or technically even MORE of a brat than she already is) whenever he tries to show our son any attention. Unfortunately I doubt there's anything I'll be able to do about this with 8 weeks left until his arrival.
Is anyone living in a home with this "split"?
What's it like?
Wow, I'm sorry you have to
Wow, I'm sorry you have to put off your wants of a baby of your own due to SKs. I know it really sucks when you fall in love with the man but there's always his kids in the dang picture....
And yep I have a feeling he will always come 2nd, just by the way he treats her now. I knew I would always be on a back burner when it came to her but I refuse to let my baby be treated that by his own dad. He was a surprise (fertility issues), but since I wanted my husband AND a baby, I didn't think twice about trying to prevent it from happening.
I'm hoping your husband will
I'm hoping your husband will surprise you, and your baby will be held just as high as that bratty step daughter! Everything will change once you have him! I don't have any kids yet, probably will start trying in March after I graduate.
I bet your stepdaughter is going to have a complete meltdown when she isn't the center of the universe anymore! All the big sister t-shirts in the world won't stop the incoming jealously!
I sure hope so, I'm counting
I sure hope so, I'm counting down the weeks! At least then he'll leave me alone about how I act around his daughter. I'll be too busy focused on the needs of my newborn to care xD Good luck with the try! Hoping your pregnancy won't be as shitty as mine has been due to stepbrat.
That makes me feel like
That makes me feel like there's a little hope
Every guy is different but I
Every guy is different but I think you've gotten a good preview of what's to come.
First its a girl and they're always coddled by fathers. Well often anyway and your man is so that's the end of that speculation.
Make note of the book I've linked below. If you find your fears coming true buy it for him and encourage him to read it. Psychologists are learning that fathers are far more important than just money in making a home. This is especially for boys as they enter puberty.
http://www.amazon.com/Do-Fathers-Matter-Science-Overlooked/dp/0374141045...
Good point, I'm bracing
Good point, I'm bracing myself.
And true, but his amount of "coddling" is annoying and disturbing lol :sick:
Awesome! I'll keep that book in mind. Heck I might even read it myself lol