What would you do?
The BM and her own mother do not speak. The BM hates her. The MIL about a year ago started calling my DH wanting to spend time with the kids when they were with us. At first he allowed it a couple of times. She started calling all the time and then showed up at the house a couple of times when I was home by myself-when she knew I would be. Which if she was a nice lady would be fine-but she's not. She started calling the house to talk to ME! I would never answer or be "around" when she called, but one time she tricked me and called from her cell and I didn't recognize the number. She started bashing the BM with some really mean comments-I mean I wouldn't say about ANYONE. And said she wished I was her daughter instead of BM. What would you do in this siuation?? Would you tell the BM or not? What would you say to the MIL?
I wouldn't tell bm...
There is no point. I'm glad she likes you, but you don't have to like her. I bet she is just playing you, I don't know for sure, but that was my first guess.
Who cares about her, keep doing what your doing, eventually shell get it. And now you know the cell number to watch. Sounds pretty disfunctional.
Stepwitch
Thank you Disney for portraying a positive image on all stepmothers!!!!
mil
Don't allow your self to be put in the middle of those 2. Don't say anything to BM and discontinue the relationship with her mom. If she continues to push it put your foot down. Tell MIL that you are not going to be put in the middle and that you don't want to discuss her daughter. MIL is using you for her own good
I would tell her
That I understand where she is coming from, but that it makes me uncomfortable to talk about BM since she IS the BM of the skids, and that is life. If she wants to speak with you about other things non BM related and have a relationship with you, that great, but you refuses to go on listening to anymore BM slander. It's a tough thing to say, but being up front may be the only way to get your point across. Perhaps MIL can't think of anything else to talk to you about or another way to connect with you? If there are other things you and MIL have in common, you may have to change the subject and talk about other interests.
Wow, I would be wary...
Nip it in the bud quick! I think I would just say that I was sorry that she feels that way and that she should try to work things out with her daughter and leave it at that. Let her know that you do not want to discuss that with her and that is makes you uncomfortable. You do NOT want to get in the middle of that.
Georgie