Well if you have read any of my posts, my SD17 is pregnant and due next month.
I asked her about a month ago if she wanted me in the room when her baby is born, no big deal really. I didn't think much of it. She said of course and only if I was comfortable with it because I have never had kids or experienced a birth before.

My SD is 17 and pregnant, she lives with me and DH full time. BM hasn't really been a Mom in years and this last year hasn't been around much at all. She says she distanced herself because she can't give them what I can and so she would just rather stand back. You know, I don't care how much money you have, you can be a good Mom without money! Besides that she decided to have a baby with a man she barely knew when my SDs were 9 and 13 who ended up being just as much as a looser as she was. She went from apartment to apartment, getting evicted, didn't work for years and at tax time would blow every cent on fancy phones, flat panel tv, laptop, you know the standard. Living with her Mom, to living with his family. She was so unstable that SDs spent most of the time with us. Finally she dug herself so far in a whole she gave us full control of my SDs and they've been living with us full time. After crying and giving us her sob story that she needed the money for a place to live last tax season we let her claim 1, even though we had them and she goes and buys a car out of her league and never gets a place to live. She currently lives with her Mom and her 4 year old.

When she found out SD17 was pregnant she said she was going to step up and take her to all of her doctors appointments and she would take 2 weeks vacation when the baby was born to help SD (DH and I have very demanding Managerial positions and we can not take long periods of time off work) and I said great! I told her she was welcome to come to the house everyday and spend the time with her. We took her to register together and even planned the baby shower. I wanted her Mom to be around and help because God knows I cannot do this all by myself and this is a time to unit together and help this girl through probably the hardest time in her life. Especially being only 17!

Last week SD17 tells me that BM told her that it might be too much for me to be in the room with her in the delivery room and that I might freak out and make it harder for her, WHAT?!!
BM said shes worried how SD17 will handle the labor and it might be best with just BM and SD BF. I am not a dumb women, the minute she said that I knew it was just BS and she was trying to scare SD to not want me in there. It didn't work. SD wants me in there. SD wont bite the hand that feeds her, that would take some balls to tell me she didn't want me there and really I am nervous about being in the room. I only wanted to be there if SHE did and I really didn't think much of it after that.

A couple days ago BM calls DH and starts freaking out about me being in the room. DH said I have a right to be there and SD wants her there! BM said something like this is the last chance she has to bond with her daughter. WTF? How does that make any sense. DH asked her wheres shes been for the last year and she flipped. She tells DH she cry's every night that she doesn't have her girls and wishes she could even be there for the fighting and hard times, she'd give anything. Anything bitch? Ok, how about that pretty nice car you got last year and that nice cell phone you have with internet. How about the flat panel TV and lap top. Don't tell me how you'd give anything

Now, do I blame her for feeling this way, no. I don't know what it is like to be in her shoes and feel like you've lost all control of your kids, BUT, I DO NOT FEEL SORRY FOR HER! I don't feel sorry for a women who did this to herself and did not put her kids first. Mistake after mistake after mistake she made not thinking about them.

So all of the sudden you want to come do all this fun stuff and take your daughter to doc appts and rub her belly and buy cute little outfits? I thought you were broke? Where were you when they needed school clothes, supplies, makeup, movie $, car insurance, gas money. When they are sick or hurt? When they are fighting and yelling? When they need rides or r just being disrespectful brats? huh? I'm good enough to put a roof over your kids head, feed them, clothe them, make sure they have toilet paper to wipe their ass but I can't be there when my step-grandson is born? You give me full control, and then want to come into our lives and dictate what YOU want now????

So I asked DH, what about when this biotch wants to come over everyday when the baby is born to help SD while I'm at work in MY HOME? If she wants to spend time with her grandson it will have to be in MY HOME and I can support her daughter and her grandson in MY HOME, BUT I can't see him being born because of your shortcomings and your personal issues and demons???

I don't know what to do, I sent her a text with no response. I figured we could talk about it, but I am done being nice. I am so pissed at her right now!

What to do, what to do?????