I'm not sure how many people have this problem, but I really just would like some advice, maybe someone to tell me I am not a terrible person. My husband's 12 yo SD came to live with us full time in June of 07. She is a typical well behaved 12 yo. She gets straight A's without even trying, an attitude sometimes, but who didn't at 12? Anyway, SD tells me the other day that "she loves me more than anything in the world, sometimes more than daddy, but don't tell him though". In the beginning, I thought that it was endearing that she enjoyed spending time with me, and wanted to live with us full time (Less CS he has to pay to BM -- way less actually, like $800! yipee) Now, BM is not really a bad person, at least not to the kids. She hates me, but most of us know how that feels. A little negative, and a little miserable at times, but she tries. I am the exact opposite. I am usually a very upbeat person, always trying to get them to laugh and talk and stuff like that. Now, SD lately has been very clingy. When I try to go do something on my own(which is like hardly never) she tries to give me this guilt trip that I don't spend any time with her. I take her to school every day, take her home every night, she goes shopping with us, she goes everywhere we go, including to the biweekly meetings of the fire department. I don't take her to training with me, or to classes (which are rare) I go to dinner with a friend once a month, and if I am not home by her bedtime, boy do I get the evil eyes. So, most people complain that the SK's are terrible horrible and such, but I don't have that problem. I want to make sure that I don't turn her away, she almost idolizes me, it seems. I don't want to be idolized. Last night, she finds out that I have some training to go to, and all of a sudden, "I don't feel good" So I ask her whats wrong, she says "I don't know....I feel down" And I so think that it is just a game she is playing, because she didn't seem down a few hours before that. I'm sure some of it has to do with hormones (she started her monthly cycle in September -- still has yet to tell her mother, she doesn't want to.) We've had the "sex talk" the "about my body" talk..... the "drug talk" I really think that these type of things are things that her BM should be doing. But, I am happy to do them anyway. So,is there anyone who might be able to give me some advice how to handle this type of behavior. Oh, I forgot to mention, there is a 9 YO SD that lives with the BM. 12 yo hates her to come and visit, and when she does, she gets downright nasty. Doesn't want her sister around. I just don't get it.