My first time on here, not sure if im doing it right. My stepson is 11 and i've only known him for 2 years. He lives with his mother, (his mother and i get along just fine), and we get him every other weekend. Before my husband and i got married, i dont think he got him that often. He is adhd and his mother gives us pills, i would rather not use them, but honestly sometimes hes a little too much to handle. My husband and I dont use them every time we have him, just when we go to family functions and we cant keep an eye on him the entire time.
So since he's been on summer vaction he has stayed with us more often. Since before we only got him for a couple of days the discipling didnt work all that well. My husband and I felt that we didnt want to have him spend his time with us on punishment since its such a short time. We did agree with a time out chair though. We have had him for two weeks, he is listening better, to his father and to me (i dont want to replace his mom, but i am someone who loves him and wants to teach him right from wrong)
Long story short, i have a 4 month year old kitten, who my stepson adores. We tell him to leave the kitten alone constantly and most of the time he does. The last time he carried the kitten off, I thought nothing of it. I went upstairs just to check on him and the cat. I asked how he was doing and then where the kitten was. He replied " I bagged it" Then he lifts up a pilow which he placed on top of the cat that he bagged. By "bagged" he meant he put it in overnight bag,which the cat barely fit, in, cinched it up tight. Lord knows how long the poor kitten was in there.
Im not sure how to react to that. He went straight to punishment, we told him that that was very wrong, and expalined to him why. He has to tell his mom what he did. I am so mad at him i dont even want to speak to him, (not mature I know). I just dont know what to do. Any suggestions?