Step Daughter popped in and I didn't even recognize her
My SD20 left my home almost 9 months ago. She headed out my doors to prove to the world just how awful her mother and I were to her for all those years of providing a safe home, food, education, support, and everything else.
She followed her dad's advice and sent us the way of the buffalo. It was hard at first, then life just has a way of moving on.
I have 5 other kids younger than 12, started my own business from a successful side hustle, got busy traveling across the country over the summer with my beautiful wife, and just really enjoyed life without stepdaughter drama for the first time in 13 years.
Two days ago I was in my home office when my camera notified me of a visitor. I scurried to the front door to meet the young lady. I put my two goldendoodle pups away and prepared to tell the young lady I was not interested in solar panels or a new water purification system.
I opened the door and the young lady smiled and said SURPRISE! and opened her arms. I just stared and cocked my head to the side like a confused mut.
Her mouth began to ramble on and then she asked the question that snapped me out of my haze...
"Where is mom?"
It was my stepdaughter...she had gained about 60 pounds since I last saw her. Her face was full of acne and her hair was nappy. It honestly broke my heart, but unfortunately I was home alone and I don't trust her so I set up a time for her to come back later.
Wow...the visual of her has passed through my thoughts the last couple days. As a very competitive person there was this part of me that wanted her to prove me wrong. I wanted her to go out and crush it! Make me eat my words like I would have done at her age.
Instead she's out of money, she can no longer mooch off her aunt, and her dad... well he got what he wanted out of her I guess.
She can't live in my home anymore because I don't trust her and don't have room so I asked an older couple with an extra bedroom that she can rent for cheap to graciously take her in until she gets back on her feet.
So freaking sad.
Less than a year ago she had a full ride at a local college and was being vetted for a management position.
Any advice on keeping a safe distance and helping? I want to be cautious and not cruel.