SS Has Balls Of An Elephant
SS18 decided to drive and see his mommy who lives about 2 hours away - her favorite holiday is Halloween so he apparently wanted to visit her as she hung out in graveyards and bit the heads off bats and chickens, then watch as she performed a seance over a tombstone. I hear she crushes up her prescribed un-needed pain medication - that she normally sells on the streets - over the ground and chants for the body underneath to come alive.
Seriously...this chick is so odd that all of the above IF it WAS done...I wouldn't bat an eyelash.
So he drives up there last night and suddenly I get a call from a friend that is connected to our home movie account..I can connect up to 3 devices to my account and you can stream movies through it. His was suddenly disconnected. I have allowed 2 other people, who are my SS's friends to get on with my permission..and only my permission. He was one of them that I trust. I do some research early this morning and my account suddenly had a new device connected to it to get free movies and such that was connected last night and it was watched all night...scary movies. SS's friend was off and a new device was listed that is not the friend's viewing device.
NOW...for one thing...BM has openly ruined her daughter's credit - I don't even know where to start..unpaid cell phone bills that ran into the $1000's, opened bank accounts and ran overdraft fees to the roof, opened utilities in her kid's names and let then go in the $1000's...passed MANY bad checks...had so much bad debt it ruined my DH's credit horribly.
I WAS LIVID when I found out my SS had went to this shyster's home...attached her device to it without my permission...and MY name is on that account. I have no idea what else can be done through this sort of set up, but anything with MY name on it will NOT be in that woman's home. And for me to not be asked...you have no idea how angry I was.
DH came home this morning....he was like "Good morning love!"
My answer? "If I find out your son went to his mother's home and signed her up on my home movie account...there will be HELL to pay! I'm ready to blow a gasket and if you don't take care of it right NOW...I WILL!"
DH called SS - no answer. He texted. No answer. Finally SS texts he didn't do this. Then calls...my DH actually has the BALLS to say "Son, I was just wondering if you wanted to share some time with your mother watching scary movies and hooked her TV up to your SM's account."
Are you kidding me?? Share some time?? That little shit did something without permission and it's called sharing time?? Of course SS lied and said he never did it..the device was deleted by me, along with his other friends. No more sharing my account. The 2 kids that were very diligent about it and I know their parents well and they could be trusted as well...lost all access to it. All thanks to SS's ability to take liberties where he has none.
I told DH to get his head out of the sand...my accounts and bills are NEVER to be near the BM. For all the crap I've seen her kids and my DH go through - I will not be a party to any of it. They all may sit around and shove it all under the carpet but there is no way in hell I will find myself knee deep in some sort of financial shitstorm with the BM behind it.
We are talking about a woman that has current warrants for her arrest for RECENTLY passing bad checks once again...and DH wants to look at this act from SS as him needing to share time with his mother?? If so, he can do it on his or her dime...not mine. I'm about sick to death of his reasoning behind his grown adult children's actions.
Thoughts?
Thanks for your reply!
Thanks for your reply!
Password was changed this morning after all the devices were deleted. Even SS's device was deleted. He did something without permission so now he can buy his own monthly service..little shit.
My SS has taken many liberties he never should have..trust me. You would NOT have wanted to be here the time he was being picked up by his mother outside..one of the FEW times...I thought they had left and he came back in the house quickly on the disguise of forgetting something and I found him in our freezer. When asked what he was doing, he mumbled something about his mother not having food at her place...I looked him square in the face and told him if he took one ounce of food from our freezer to give to her, he would be in some serious shit.
He left with nothing, needless to say. Only problem is, she had gotten him the month before..and I can remember looking in our freezer one day for a whole chicken and some pork chops I had bought and frozen. They were not there and I knew I had not cooked them. I can honestly say after that it more than likely was meat that was given to mommy...among other food in our home.
Like I said..SS has the balls of an elephant. I think he would drive the getaway car for his worthless mother if she was robbing a bank with no care to himself. I honestly feel if he needs to perform such acts for this loser...then go live with the freak. End of story. }:)
DH DOES enable all this..and
DH DOES enable all this..and trust me I have told him. More times than I care to say.
Do you know that BM makes her son pay her gas money when she comes down? And he works at the movie theater and makes a few bucks a week and she has taken what little money he has so she can buy cigarettes? She gives him a sob story of how she has cancer..which she does not..and he hands over money.
It's sickening..and I used to feel sorry for SS but anymore I see him as an extra large pussy just like his father.
I've heard DH talk..and loudly scream...at his son for letting his mother treat him this way. And SS has ways of making my DH feel like it's somehow necessary...that's it's needed to help his mother, who is so disabled that she can't function in life. I've seen DH so distraught he was almost in tears over how his son caters to his mother...yet caves in and says that his son is now 18 and he hopes will one day learn to tell her NO.
I told DH recently that I was so angry at how SS's mother treats him that I had to walk away from conversations..that hearing them talk was so sick it made me feel like I was losing part of my sanity. And I refuse to cater to that hot mess. I've told SS his mother uses him and he's gotten so angry at me he won't speak to me for a while. I just have that sense in me of caring for people..and this young man is being used..and all the while, his mother's traits and behaviors are rubbing off on him HORRIBLY.
And then I have DH - who feels his grown son needs to learn to handle situations with his sister and mother on his own. I'm sure he will one day - from a prison cell. I don't care this man is 18..he is SOOOOOO immature. And needs DH's guidance...and DH is just not seeing it because if he did, he'd have to admit failure, just like he'd have to with his daughter.
Very vicious cycle here.
Oh my gosh - it is VERY
Oh my gosh - it is VERY frustrating. I've told DH I'm tired of how BM treats SS making this house feel the effects...very tired of it.
DH has confronted BM only to have her also tell him her sad plight - I've heard him in total anger yelling at her over it..and add in a few choice names for her. Usually ends with DH again saying his son is 18 and will have to learn restraint and how to say NO.
DH has the sad idea that magically at 18 you're grown into an adult with all the answers. My daughter is 20 and I still will tell her things and guide her. I don't know why he feels 18 is the magic number. Very sad on his part. It's a wonder he still talks to me about stuff because I have erupted on him..how he buries his head up his ass.
What's sad is that if you are around this situation...you are made to believe this is part of what being a family is all about..being used and treated like shit. That this is 'her way'..the BM's. That she has always been like this and always will be. That does NOT excuse her behavior..not in the slightest.
SS defends his mother at all costs...if I would walk up to him today and call her some names...I do believe he'd call me some choice ones back and go off the deep end on me. He feels she does NO wrong in the whole time of her life..that when he was young and came home and found her with other men besides her father meant nothing.
And that's because she's told him it's nothing. And he's such a pussy he believes it.
Very sad situation. Frustrating.
Hi SKs! Read my reply
Hi SKs! Read my reply above...answers some of what you said.
And you're right about DH being a pussy...a large one at that. It's always "Well...." and some sort of BS about his time with his mother. I call bullshit when I see it and this is BS.
I, unlike his mother, work for a living. I don't claim an injury that is not there to collect government funds, then sell prescribed medication on the streets to earn my keep. Therefore, anything with my name on it will not be anywhere near his mother. I don't care if it's a matter of life or death. Nothing.
I told DH he may have been foolish enough to have allowed her to ruin his finances, but I will not. I'm very tired of hearing the bitching over how she's financially unkempt..but then try to convince me black is white as his son takes liberties with my bills. I had to remind him LOUDLY who this woman was and how he complains over her. THAT is why I will not have my name attached to anything she owns.
Hi da! Actually I'm sorry as
Hi da!
Actually I'm sorry as well..one of the kids has a grandmother that lives with him and she told me I was gracious to let them connect to the account for she enjoys an occasional movie. I'll let my SS explain why it's no longer allowed. He gives himself off to others as a nice, sweet young man..but I am seeing a side to him that is a very spoiled, selfish, and entitled young man. He is telling his father all he needs to hear to believe he's the good young man he wants his dad to believe.
You just don't take such liberties with a bill someone is paying...not in my book.
DH really needs to get his head out of his ass. SS is slowly turning into his sister...and his mother. Right before our very eyes. If he doesn't do anything about it, it's his own fault. He let his daughter become her mother - you'd think he'd want to save his son.
The lying and sense of entitlement is showing more every day.
LOL!! That's true!
LOL!! That's true!
He is 18. I hope u make him
He is 18. I hope u make him pay for the movies he watched with her.