SS 14 extremely good kid - BM extremely disappointing
My SS14 asked to go on a field trip to Washington DC at the end of the year, it cost $1150. He has 400 kids in his grade and only about 35 participate each year. He really wants to go and loves history. I'd love to send him but with the economy being what it is, helping with his brother's wedding and the potential for a slowdown at his father's work I can't commit us to paying for all of it. (I handle our finances)
I told him to talk to his Mom about it and see what she would chip in...her response, "I'll do my best". So I texted her today and said, "We can't pay for all of it do you have any ideas?". Of course I haven't received a response. She never pays for anything except when she gets her tax return of $4000+ and then it's blow money time.
I feel so guilty. He's such a good kid. I'm so tempted to just let him go and pray we find a way to come up with the money.
^^^^^^That too!
^^^^^^That too!
Yes. My DD is 22 and got
Yes. My DD is 22 and got married a month ago. I told her up front that I couldn't afford to pay for a big wedding but would pay for her dress. Her and the groom didn't complain and made or found cheaper ideas for decorations.
If the younger one is a good kid and this trip would be interesting and beneficial, that comes first.
You horrible disgusting SM!
You horrible disgusting SM! LOL.
Bless your heart for acknowledging that he's a good kid and wanting to find a way to help. Perhaps he could take on a few odd jobs for neighbors... babysitting, cleaning out someone's garage, etc. to earn a little cash. I really hope he's able to go and I'm sorry his pos BM is so unwilling to commit to helping her own offspring.
Umm how come it is so much
Umm how come it is so much money? My DH and SS went to Washington DC Memorial day weekend (we live in Canada)With airfare including return flight, plus hotel and food they only paid $1200 for both. The school should be getting a lower rate with 35 people going. I would say cut back helping out your brother, if you really want SS to go and put the money towards that for him.
We're out $250 in tux rental
We're out $250 in tux rental and another $600 for the rehearsal dinner and then we have Christmas.
Maybe SS would understand
Maybe SS would understand that Christmas will be more slim for him and that the trip would be his christmas? can you maybe do a fundraiser (car wash) or something to help raise funds? Maybe he can write some of his close relatives (grandparents aunt uncles) about what this is about and they can donate?
I completely understand, my SS is a good kid too. I would do anything in my power for him.
I agree on cutbacks- scale
I agree on cutbacks- scale back christmas and helping for brother's wedding, and have SS see what he can do to raise some of it. You'd be amazed how quickly doing some yard work for neighbors and such can add up. Use this as a learning experience for him- maybe he raises half and he can go?
I'm sure your SS isn't the
I'm sure your SS isn't the only kid having trouble coming up with the money. The school may be aware of this and plan to hold optional fundraisers. If so, make him take part.
Have SS shovel snow,do yard work, walk dogs,baby sit...to help earn extra money for the trip.
Put out the word to family and friends. Maybe they will donate to the cost of trip instead of giving gifts for his birthday and Christmas.
That's sort of our plan. If
That's sort of our plan. If he saves his allowance it will be $185, plus he's going to save his birthday money and any christmas money he recieves. He said he'd take it as a christmas gift, but I realy don't want to do that.
I think his mom should pay for at least $200 of the trip, but she won't. She still owes on my SD's school books from 2010.