Oh do I hate this saying....Just thinking back to some outrageous situations and how BM always tries to manipulate SO. Example: There was a Sophia the First (a disney princess show) party at a mall on a Saturday. Me and SO were going to take her to it. BM soon learns of the party, calls So to tell him about it. He informs her he already knows and had already made plans to take her. BM asks if she could go and guess what SO said YES!!! WTF are you kidding me??????? Side note: they do NOT get a long and she and I do not get along. I asked him why he agreed to say yes. He tells me it's what's best for SD and I need to put my feelings aside. Really?? I don't think so. After this woman has brought our unborn baby at the time into your drama by calling him a spawn bastard and stupid after she moved to her BF's parents house and refused to tell where he lived. Can we please stop trying to do favors for each other and realize that the three of us being in the same room with each other is NOT what's best. I retaliate with if you really wanted "what's best for SD" then you should have seeked couples therapy and worked it out for SD. Of course she could have just showed up to this event as it was a public event but she is too dumb to figure that out. Anyway...on the day of BM can't go because she couldn't get off work, so it worked out in the end. I am just so tired of the thought process "it's what's best".