Something I didn't expect to hear for many years... from SS's mouth!
The kids were eating breakfast before school this morning... SS was in a happy little mood. He said "SM.... (long pause)... am I gonna live HERE all of the time?" I was kind of taken back by this question. I knew it would happen SOME day, but I didn't expect it at age 5. So I responded with "why do you ask that honey?" His cute little voice says "because I want to."
I just told him that if that is how he feels, he needs to talk to his Dad about it. He said "ok, I am gonna talk to him".
I am not sure if I handled it the right way, but... I just don't have it in me to encourage him to go to his moms house. I just don't. He is only 5, and just because he doesn't WANT to go to his mom's doesn't mean that he doesn't have to, but it was kind of nice to hear out of his mouth.
Should I have handled that different??
I hope you can get him
I think everything would have turned out different and vastly better for all of us w/SD17 if we could have had custody of her - if you get the chance, grab it-!!!
"It's funny how dogs and cats know the inside of folks better than other folks do, isn't it?"
- Eleanor H. Porter (1868 - 1920), 'Pollyanna', 1912
you did the right thing
Its what I would have said. I love both of my skids and just don't have it in me to encourage them to stay with mom. I'd have to tell them to ask their dad and let him work his magic. I'm glad you have a good relationship with SS. Even if you don't get custody it will make life waaay easier
sorry crayon
I didn't realize that my subject line was the same as yours. Didn't mean to copy lol