Sneeky sd11
This weekend I have two 11 year olds running around the house. At first my sd was suppose to go stay at the little girls house in our weekend. The BM asked my DH to puck her up and take her to meet the parents. He did and met the little girls mom. This is their doings. I myself would have looked them up on facebook and done a little research but whatever. The parents turned out to be descent. The next day he picks his daughter up and here comes the other to my house to stay. I didn't want to argue about my husbands decisions but I didn't like him not talking to me first. I say my sd is sneaky because last night at the dinner table she starts talking about her BM, her half sister, and grandparents and their favoritism towards her half sister and how she gets nothing. My DH asks her if she wants to live here. She says she wants to but it's not her decision until she reaches the age of 15. He says, no it's 12. That's when I spoke up and told her that's something she is really going to have to do some thinks my about and I asked her if she wanted us to buy her something she needed like a easter dress because that's what she was crying about. She gets her sisters handmi down dresses and her half sister gets the new dress. I just feel like she is stirring some shit talking about her other side to us and probably going back talking to them about us. Her friend that was here told her she had no common sence lol . Her friend that's 11 doesn't have a step mom , her parents are still together so I can imagine what she is thinking.
Kids only get to make the
Kids only get to make the decision on where they live if BOTH parents give them that responsibility.
Judge will listen to their input but its just one of the considerations.
Sounds like SD is just stirring the pot, your other half needs to get on the ball fast, else when she hits her teens he is going to be totally lost.
No it's 12. Unless she was
No it's 12. Unless she was special needs. His attorney told him that. The child would have to have a seperate attorney. I agree, I think she is stirring the pot for attention. She wants to be a mini wife so bad.
Or.... she is an 11 year old
Or.... she is an 11 year old girl who is just sharing what's going on in the other life she lives. Why does there always have to be a motive? Nothing you shared demonstrates there is any motive here. I would be sad, too, if I had to get a hand-me-down dress every Easter while the other girl got something new. This is normal behavior for 11.
The only state that lets any age child choose is TN (from what I researched not long ago). If you aren't in TN, you need to do some research on what your attorney told you.
" that's your mother you are
" that's your mother you are talking about show some respect and we do not talk about her, shes not part of this house circle"
Love this! These were
The words I was and have been looking for to say. Sometimes other people's problems seem so easy to solve and come
Up with something to say back but when it's in your own life it seems frustrating. Thank you!
That is some really good
That is some really good advice. My husband and I boh talked and agree she maybe stirring the pot on both sides, he sees it too. I told him what you said and he agreed on Good advice. Today I did listen to her awhile. She said her BM sales Plexus Slim. She said her mom wants her to start drinking the pink diet drink. She is 11 and already skinny. I just made that face out of shock and let it be. I did mention it to DH. He is upset she is giving his daughter diet drinks and energy shit but it's something he is going to have to think before he speaks. His ex is a ding bat.
OMG DON'T LET HER COME LIVE
OMG DON'T LET HER COME LIVE WITH YOU!!! I can't tell you how awful it is to have my SD13 full time. I try to warn everybody as a public service. If you can possibly stop it, DON'T do full time stepkids.
I don't want to be her mother
I don't want to be her mother so I think the best place for her is at her moms. She's just trying to get attention. Thanks for the heads up