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Sd11 venting about BM

SweetMom's picture

I don't know what's on sd11 mind. When her half sister comes it's all about my mom my mo
My mom. When she comes by herself it's like deep shit comes out. All I do is listen because I've been a little surprised at what she has been saying . She says her mom is more like her older (sister 13) friend and not a mother. They got matching belly button rings. She said her BM
Made sure at age 10 her half sister had a brand new iPhone and every so often she breaks it so she will get a new one from the moms aunt and the grandmaw buys her sister new shoes and clothes all the time but they won't get her nothing. She she goes to school and comes home and her stuff is gone. She says that family says she is irresponsible but she still has the iPad mini we bought her for Christmas. She is wanting a phone so bad that was promised to her since age 9 like her sister got and she is 11. She says her sister gets her In trouble but won't let her explain. They have been treating the other kid like an adult and act like she better forever. She always gets handmi down clothes and when her sister gets mad she will tell her to take off her clothes and the BM inforces it. She says she wants to learn her social security number but her mom says she isn't responsible but her sister had been repeating hers for the past 4 years. She is also talking about a car her sister will probably get and she won't. She says her mom lets her sister go to a bomb fire at night with friends and smokes dope with her boyfriend at 13. Is she being a typical girl in venting or trying to play us against eachother? DH says she just babbles on but he has been fighting favoritism for ever. That older one stopped coming here because we don't play favoritism and I'm the adult not them. DH also tells his daughter he can't help what they do over at that house with that girl.

Jsmom's picture

Watch it, sounds like exaggeration. You can be fair at your house, but can't control BM's house. I will tell you BM here favored my SD18 horribly and SS16 was tired of it. When BM got full custody of SD at 14, SS wanted to live here full time. So we have him full time and she has her. They have no relationship at all. BM barely sees SS and we haven't seen SD since Xmas 2013.

Tread slowly and odds are good she will wake up one day and be done with that house and want yours full time. Be prepared for that scenario.

onthefence2's picture

My exbf's son14 would have stories like this, and I also think they were exaggerated. BUT, that doesn't mean they weren't true. What I mean is that his brother (different dad) does get preferential treatment , but once son14 realized blabbing about it got him favors from Daddy, he learned to pile it on. BM has borderline personality disorder and is a mess, but he has learned how to play his dad (from the master!) and Dad buys it every time.