I have a generally pleasant stepdaughter who is 5. I have been her SM for 3 years and am very happy in my relationship with her father and we are expecting my first child in December.
My SD's mum is an absolute nightmare in every way (like many of the others i have read about on here!). In the 3 years I have been with my SO, BM has had at least 5 different boyfriends, the latest one has recently moved in with her.
Strangely, BM told my SO approx 4 weeks ago that she and her BF had split up due to him having bailiffs turn up on her doorstep chasing him for money. In those 4 weeks since they 'split up' he has not moved out, they still have cosy 'family' days out, she still leaves him in charge of the household.... It all seems very strange to me. Nothing has changed.
Until my sister said something and I think she might have a point. We think she has just claimed they have split up (and he is living there 'until he finds somewhere else to live') to avoid her losing some of her single persons benefit that she claims. I have often wondered in the past if the £200 a month that my SO pays into her bank account is accounted for through the benefits system also, of if she simply fails to declare this.
I love my SD but I sincerely do not like her nasty mother, who constantly berates my SO and tells him what an awful rubbish dad he is (he is not, he loves his daughter to pieces and has the moral fibre of a saint), then forgets to put the poor child in underwear, or lets her eat cake and a bottle of coke for breakfast.
Anyway, I would like some advice from you wonderful people, do I report her for suspected fraud or do I just leave it. And let her have her 52" inch TV, designer sofas and all the other crap she claims she is too poor to buy. While the rest of us law abiding people make do with the dribs and drabs we actually can afford?
WHAT DO I DO?!