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payback's a bitch, isn't it BM?!

christinen's picture

Just wanted to share something funny with you all-
BM was (as usual) causing trouble, threatening DH and me, and not taking SD when she is supposed to take her.

I reported her for welfare fraud because she only had SD 2 days this past month (& even on a normal basis, she is only supposed to have SD 50% but gets assistance as if she had her 100%). She was getting food stamps, health insurance, and A CHECK from the state every month for SD when she hardly ever even has SD.

So yup I reported her and she called DH today telling him he better get health insurance for SD because her benefits were cut hahahaha

It sucks they took away her free health insurance because now we have to add SD to my insurance but it’s worth it!

christinen's picture

Right! She was getting assistance as if she had SD 100% of the time when legally she only has her 50% of the time, and lately it's been wayyyy less than that (like I said, she only had her 2 days this past month). Screw that! Why is she getting free food and CASH when WE are the ones who have SD every day?!

Not to mention that DH and I are taxpayers, so it's basically coming out of our paychecks anyway. I feel good about it.

christinen's picture

That sucks!! I wonder why they didn't look into it. I found a link on our state website and sent an email last week so it didn't take long at all.

They actually said they were surprised she got away with it for as long as she did (SD is 5).

MdMom's picture

How do you report someone for welfare fraud? BM has SD 2-3 days a week, but claims she has SD 100% of the time. SD is covered on FDH's medical and dental, but BM has insurance through the sate too. She collects 500$ a month on top of food stamps. It annoys the hell outta me cause not only does she get so much assistance but she still demands FDH give her more money than he does, and in the CO he's not even suppose to give her CS because we have SD majority of the time.

christinen's picture

There was a link on our state's website to report it.

That's exactly what BM was doing, claiming she had SD 100% when that's not even close to being true.

She is taking DH to court next week for custody of SD and I'm almost positive it's just because she wants CS (currently we have SD more than BM so DH doesn't pay anything) because it sure as hell doesn't seem like she truly wants SD.. She hardly ever takes her now.

MdMom's picture

I'll definitely look at my states sight. I just think its bullsh*t that BM thinks she can get away with claiming SD lives with her full time. And has the audacity to demand FDH pay for things SD needs, granted we NEVER give her money, but when she says SD needs clothes or toys we're suppose to jump through hoops to get them to her. We have three other babies to support, our budget doesn't allow us to get things BM needs. I mean I thought that's why she was on state assistance anyways. When she texts FDH saying she doesn't have enough $$ to get necessities for SD I just wanna choke hee out and say 'figure it out, get a job!! We don't ask YOU for help!!'

It just pisses me off so much!!

queenofthedamned's picture

Ugh. Our BM does this shit too - gets assistance as if she has them 100% of the time, when in reality she has them less than 25%. $500-600/mo in food stamps when WE'RE the ones feeding them. I am thisclose to reporting her ass. The only thing that has stopped me so far is pure, unadulterated selfishness - she already cries poverty and I am sure that if her bennies were cut she'd take them less than she already does.

christinen's picture

Exactly. We are the ones feeding SD and we don't get any kind of assistance so that comes straight out of our pockets. We have SD almost every day. It was just getting ridiculous.

BM has been taking SD less and less and it got to the point where I was so disgusted with her getting free food, insurance, and CASH for SD, when she never even has her, that I reported her. I thought about it for years before I actually did it.

They deserve to be reported. They shouldn't get away with this crap.

christinen's picture

Wow smh it's horrible what they are teaching these kids. My SD is only 5 so she doesn't understand the whole food card thing yet but she does seem to think everything is free- not sure if that is just her age or something she picked up from BM.

I know BM got a huge tax return too. The whole thing just pisses me off. DH and I work every day and she doesn't want to work but she probably makes more than we do. She has 3 kids by 3 different men & is not married to any of them so she pulls the "poor single mother" card even though she chose to have all those damn kids. Makes me sick.

sbm014's picture

I do not know the food stamp situation for my BM however, I did report her working and stating false facts to which she provided to family friends that she said she was saying so she could get disability. I reported this to SSI mind you it would be harder for her anyways as she hasn't worked except under the table so has not put into the system. BUT they denied her and now she has to wait a certain amount of time I can't remember and go through a completely different doctor and face MIL's really good friend for any information regarding to her trying to get SSI again. So there is still a chance she will get it but the process has been made harder than normal and extended. Made me feel awesome.

christinen's picture

Isn't it great! All the crap these nut BMs put us through, I am glad we can get a little payback every once in a while!

christinen's picture

Now BM is claiming the state wants her to pay that money back (lol) but she says they are going to come after my DH for the money because he was supposed to be paying child support.. Um no.. He is NOT supposed to be paying CS.. We have SD more than she does; why would he pay her? If anything, she should be paying us. ughhh!

sbm014's picture

Sounds like such a mess but also sounds like BM may actually get what has been waiting to get to her for a while now.

christinen's picture

Oh yeah, she's a complete nutcase. There is absolutely nothing in their current CO about CS because they agreed in mediation (4+ years ago) that they would have SD 50/50 and therefore no CS needed to be paid.

Now, they do have a custody mod hearing coming up so we will see if that changes but currently no CS is involved.

I'm glad she got what was coming to her. Just hope they don't make my DH pay back any of that money because we sure as hell didn't see a dime of it. BM knew exactly what she was doing. She chose to lie on her paperwork and say she had SD 100% when she knew she BARELY had her 50% (and lately, she has hardly been taking SD at all). God I hate that woman.

Bravo21's picture

It's been years since you posted this so I'm hoping you still get this message. Did they every go after your husband for lying? I want to report my DH's BM to Medical fraud but I'm afraid they will go after my husband too.