Scared of SS6 for my bio son's sake... help please!
Hi I am new to this, but after reading several posts I know that I am not alone when I say that I dread the very thought of my SS. And how horrible do I feel about dreading a 6 year old boy? Pretty horrible. But I get extreme anxiety whenever I know he will be at my house (every Thursday and EOWe). BM is the type of mom that also had a media babysitter. My SO and I have been together since SS was 2 amd have tried all that we felt we could to help break him away from the television. Now that he is 6 it is worse than ever 
Recently, he got a tablet and has been watching youtube. Unsupervised. Alone in his room. Until 5 o clock in the morning. The things he has been watching are horrifying even to me as an adult. Mostly CreepyPasta videos and bloody Sonic and Tails games... well he has started coloring blood all over his toys and the walls at BMs house and she was too embarrassed to tell SO so she told my psycho mother in law (they're besties...but that's another post). SO told her that SS needs to go to therapy and she just agreed like always but will never follow through with it. Longer story short, I am scaref for my bio son who is 2 to be around SS6 because SS6 hates him and uses him as an excuse to not come over to our house (says that bio son hits him and he doesn't want to share his toys). I also have concerns about sexual things that could happen. Are these irrational fears? Am I the crazy one for fearing a 6 year old? I feel like SO has so little say when it comes to SS6 that we are just waiting for something to happen to my baby in order to get out of this situation it's a horrible horrible feeling. Any incite would be helpful
I won't say there's nothing
I won't say there's nothing to be concerned about, but I don't understand why you couldn't just make sure you're always near BS2. And why your SO doesn't just make sure SS6 is supervised and without electronics while he's visiting, so one of you can step in if BS2 needs you.
You have instincts for a
You have instincts for a reason - trust them and don't trust this SS around your kid.
Get a psychologist to evaluate the child, he sounds dangerous.
Better safe than sorry.
I would have genuine concerns
I would have genuine concerns about why the SS6 is so interested in that type of social media. I would set up some parental controls on his tablet and only permit use in parental presence and with time restrictions. I don't think taking it away completely will resolve the issue because SS6 needs to learn what is appropriate media and that will not be accomplished without you being his teacher. Family counseling can be an incredible tool for children if accomplished through a good therapist. Something is causing him to be drawn to this and you need to learn why to help him.
I wouldn't leave these children alone together. I'm sure the baby doesn't yet understand the idea of sharing and that there is always a possibility that BS2 could hit SS6. It happens. It's normal. It is SS6's reaction I would be concerned about.
Resolve the issue before it becomes a major source of contention or eventually infects BS2. Bad behavior is contagious.
A few things i forgot to
A few things i forgot to mention. My SO is a stay at home daddy right now and attends night school when i get home from work during the week. And we also have a son who is 5 months old so sometimes when there isnt two of us home things can get pretty hectic. I also forgot to mention that he does not have or use a tablet in our home. The irresponsibleness is coming from BMs house. She didn't even think to get rid of the bloody toys and just continued to let him play with them
.. I heard about the CreepyPasta craziness and that's what really got me so worried!
The toys are worrisome aren't
The toys are worrisome aren't they? I'm glad you two are keeping the kid away from his tablet. Ihat's likely that's the real reason he doesn't want to visit. I hope Daddy doesn't cave on that subject as many fathers would give in rather than let the kid(s) stay at Mom's.
You haven't mentioned the 6 you doing anything except paint toys. No threats or acts yet. Can you get the kid in to see a counselor on Thursday? After a few sessions perhaps the counselor will want to see the parents and if s/he tells the mother that the tablet has to go she'll listen.
Meanwhile the only practical thing to do is to keep the kid in sight at all times. At the first sign of night wandering I'd put a screen door latch on the kids room and lock it at night. I know that sounds scary in case of fire but that's what I'd do.
I think us having rules and
I think us having rules and boundaries in our home is why he doesn't want to come over as well as not having his tablet youre right. I feel bad for SO because we are only living here in this state for his son that doesn't even want him
we are at a loss...
I definitely agree with you
I definitely agree with you ^^^ that my bios are just as important as SS! I already try and remove them from the home as much as possible when he is around but is there more I can do just going on a gut feeling? SS6 is totally inappropriate as far as just taking his clothes off at random times as well as times he has an accident (still not potty trained) and my SO jumps on that so fast to explain to him it's not appropriate and to distract the 2 year old. One time we found them naked on the couch together under a blanket. Not for long but that was my first red flag and 2 year old was only one at the time and still in diapers. Also like I said before, we do not have any tablets or technology in our home other than tv (with no cable) so the things he is seeing are at BMs house. SO has told her many many times to do parental controls and to not have him so engaged in fantasy land but she doesnt care... its almost like he doesnt know reality from fake? Am I doing something wrong? I just don't know what I can amd can't do but try amd protect my babies
Update: BM is refusing to
Update: BM is refusing to have him throw away the bloody toys because she is afraid it will be too hard on him... so he's still playing with them. This is horrible right?