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Submitted by Jenner3 on Thu, 02/18/2010 - 12:38pm

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I have been w/ my guy for 3 years and we spend holidays and summers w/ his 3 kids. I always mailout pkgs and gifts for each holiday and b-day and in-between so they feel special. I generally never get a thankyou. This V-day I put a box together and texted his eldest to make sure she got it, no response. It said it was delivered. Now I'm pissed and I told my BF Im done. Its his responsibility to send things to hiskids and I am blown away by the lack of simple manners. He calls his kids, makes a big deal about it, they are apologetic and then I get a muriad of fake "Thanks so Much", "We really appreciate it". The wholepoint is to kind of build good foundation but now its forced and now I feel like the whole thing is weird and I dont want to go out of my way anymore. Arghh

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Submitted by Snowflake on Thu, 02/18/2010 - 12:53pm

My mom actually gives me validation. SHe is on the "you knew he had kids" bus. She buys my Skids gifts and wants them to feel welcome into our family. I think it is because she really cares for my dh. When she calls my hubby, and I see it is her, I always tell him that his "girlfriend" is calling. LOL

But if you are not getting so much as a thank you. Maybe you should stop for a while, and then maybe his high expecting kids wil give you a thank you.

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Submitted by frustratedinMA on Thu, 02/18/2010 - 1:11pm

yeah.. I got my skids cards and candy for Vday, after they opened them, they looked at dh and said, thanks dad for the card and candy.. dh says, frustratedinma got them for you guys.. NOTHING.. I was standing right there. Guess they still havent figured out WHO controls the money in that house.. and that the extras come out of MY pay.

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Submitted by rosa1 on Fri, 02/19/2010 - 9:14am

Yep! same for me.... no thank you at all!!!..... I tried to tell my DH that his kids do not appreciate anything. At Christmas, they got a lot of nice stuff, and not one smile, not one oh thank you I just love this. Argggg.... I was so hurt! so guess what next year will be totally different. That is a sad thing to think, but I am not going to spend my earned money of children that act that way. Thank goodness I have my own child that loves everything I get and do for her. I do think part of the reason for there behavior is that there own bio m. does not do the types of things I do, and they just don't know who to act. but still you would think after 2 years of being in there life they would appreciate having someone spend money on them and thinking of them. My DH thinks they should all be treated the same, that is just to hard. especially if the sk's don't live with us. I think some of it is guilt on his part cause he does everything for my daughter and can't for his kids all the time cause they live 3 hours away and he misses out on all the school functions but goes to his sd school stuff....

Anyway that is my intake on this.