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Hi guys/girls, my 6yr old daughter is wondering if the following scenario is the duty of the class teacher or did she (the teacher) possibly over-react.

At recess, for morning break and after lunch, the kids can go outside so, either today or yesterday (dd did not say), the teacher had them out at recess, but dd (dear daughter)thought it was too cold so questioned that decision. Her teacher said that she had to go outside as all the class were meaning that no teacher was able to look after her if she stayed inside. The teacher gave her the option of going outside with her jacket on, which dd (dear daughter) agreed to. Once the kids were outside, she checked that all the kids were OK, she also gave them the option of going in for jackets if they were cold, which all the kids went in and got. Once the kids came back out, she said to them, "you must be all cold so, can you all fasten them up before we get started".

So, my dd (dear daughter) is wondering, should her teacher have asked them to fasten the jackets or should she have just been happy that the kids chose to have their jackets on?

OK - you are not a serious

OK - you are not a serious poster, are you?

Eh, yes I am!

This is a stepparent site -

This is a stepparent site - you don't seem to have any stepkids.

How do you know that!?

Well, if you do, they don't

Well, if you do, they don't seem as upsetting to you as your daughter missing her swim competition, your car that won't start, and whether the teacher was or was not correct in telling or not telling the kids to zip up their jackets.

This isn't a question that

This isn't a question that needs an internet answer. Whether the children go out to recess or not is determined by school policy. DD doesn't get a choice. If policy says outside recess, children go out. If the children are cold they need to wear their jackets and zip them. Parents need to send their children in weather appropriate (outerwear) clothing.

My SD is 6, and the last

My SD is 6, and the last thing she's worrying about when they go out for recess is whether the teacher should or shouldn't remind them to fasten their coats.

For what its worth, my step

For what its worth, my step son is 15 and has told his step sister that, the teacher is only trying to keep her warm just like we do in daily life

See redux, I do have step kids!

OK, then!

So what is your opinion :)?

My opinion is I don't think a

My opinion is I don't think a 6 year old has nearly enough life experience or knowledge to second guess school policy or her teachers very normal instruction. In my opinion, she questions and/or bosses adults far too much (including DEMANDING you keep starting your car). My suggestion is you start using age appropriate boundries a little more than you have been with your daughter.

I grew up in Minnesota. During winter it not only snowy, but COLD. We went out for recess AND sometimes for physical education. We all LOVED it. Now, they wouldn't have us go out if it was below zero. All children wore appropriate clothes for the weather in addition to proper outer wear.

Demanding you say :O. That

Demanding you say :O. That just proves how desperate she was to go to the competition eh?

I think demanding is the

I think demanding is the right word for how you described your DD’s behaviour that day..

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Where is this glaikit wrecked teacher frae?
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At dis ma nut in.
Sending the totie wean out.
Well shan on a dreich day
Michty me!
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Aye, tell 'em, lassie!

OP, Is it your daughter's first year at school? Kids can play outside for short stints if it is not below freezing, no ice on the ground and the wind chill isn't going to turn them into frozen, blue statues. Many times teachers have seen a winter or two. It is not wrong for your dd to question decision making, but it is your job to reassure dd that the teacher made the right decision in this instance - dd survived with no ill effects. It is hard to comment on "too cold" when you gave no indication of the outside weather conditions or where you are. My only assumption is north of the equator if you have winter now.

Psssst Letti! You are running

Psssst Letti! You are running about without your sub-titles again....

The teacher is the authority

The teacher is the authority at school. Unless the teacher is asking her to do something dangerous, your daughter needs to listen and follow instruction.

What makes her think she should question the teacher in this instance? Your DD already thought she would be cold. Zipping up her jacket would keep her warm. It caused her zero harm, and likely was the smart thing to do. So...why is she questioning it?

What was your response to

What was your response to your DD when she asked you about this? Your response matters far more than our opinions do, because you’re the one raising your daughter, and how you respond to situations like this one and the swim competition will shape your DD for years to come.

I don’t know you, but from your couple posts it sounds like your daughter has too much power for a 6 year old. Did you teach her how to deal with her emotions following her tantrum at the weekend, or simply comfort her? Did you tell her the teacher is looking out for her & her classmates well-being, and to listen to her when she asks the class to zip their jackets up?

Teaching your kids to be independent is important, but they should not be leading at 6 years old, which it sounds like she is doing (and getting away with). Leadership skills & assertiveness are important, but so is discipline & respect.

I'm positively baffled that

I'm positively baffled that you are asking this question seriously. You SIX year old is questioning the authority of her teacher?? Wow. You had a DD problem.

Really?? The teacher was

Really?? The teacher was looking out for the children, gave them the option to go get their coats if they wanted AND made sure they were all buttoned up and warm enough. After all that concern and care, you are questioning whether or not she should have made the children zip up?!

I am so glad I grew up in a time where parents weren't out to hang a teacher because they are simply being nurturing and concerned. *massive eye roll so hard I can see my brain*

Also I was born and lived in the US for 35 years. Lived in a state that got far colder than England knows of. We played outside all of the time. Never once as a child do I recall being too cold. Was having too much fun playing. Honestly children now are so coddled and given far too much authority over adults. Yeesh.

I would tell your 6-year old

I would tell your 6-year old that she is to do as the teacher asks her to do and not question teachers or parents directives, as a rule.

I did tell dd that the

I did tell dd that the teacher was right to make sure the kids were warm

I do the same in normal life, if it's not nice weather, she has to zip her jacket up.

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